Dad's new wife.

15 replies

MrsG04 · 16/12/2022 20:13

My father remarried 18 yrs ago. His wife has nothing to do with us . So much so they moved to the other end of the country. As nothing to keep them here??She took me off social media as I posted my kids to much. My sis has now asked what we are getting her for Christmas. My df stopped buying us gifts birthdays and Christmas when we settled down. Even on my big birthday he gave me two baby photos he found whilst moving. Told me to keep one for next year. Am I being pity if I say I will only be given to my dad. He is not short of a bob or too. So it's never been money related. Wits end I don't want to come of mean but I would feel like a fraud giving her a gift.

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TabithaTittlemouse · 16/12/2022 20:14

She’s not his new wife.
I wouldn’t give up either, it doesn’t sound like you have a real.

Seashor · 16/12/2022 20:15

My experience is similar. No interest in us when he remarried. He’s never met his granddaughter. His loss.

Idontdoyoga · 16/12/2022 20:15

Send them a joint gift? A festive hamper from Aldi?
That way you make a point but cover your bases!
LoL!

BunintheSlowCooker · 16/12/2022 20:21

How long do you have to be married before you're not the 'new' wife anymore?

If you don't like her, don't get her a gift. There doesn't sound like there's any relationship there. Maybe she's not expecting one..

traintraveller · 16/12/2022 20:22

She's not a new wife. Why are you blaming her for your father being useless?

WineCap · 16/12/2022 20:24

Why are you buying for either of them? Just stop.

panko · 16/12/2022 20:24

They've been married 18 years- I think they are in it for the long haul! It must be nice for your dad to have found lasting love and happiness.
It's not her fault your dad is a piece of shit.
Just send them a tin of biscuits or something.

Ragwort · 16/12/2022 20:28

Does your DF give you a Christmas present? If not then surely you don't need to give him or his wife one. If you feel you have to give something then the suggestion of a tin of biscuits or similar is surely enough as a 'token' gift. Do you meet up at Christmas?

Fizzadora · 16/12/2022 20:31

What did you get for her last year....and the year before that......and the one before that...............?

Frankola · 16/12/2022 20:31

She isn't his new wife.

Your issue isn't her. It's your DF. Your dad should be the one buying your gifts and maintaining his relationship with you. Not his wife.

Season0fTheWitch · 16/12/2022 20:33

Don't get anything for either of them, if they ask why you can tell them

Hepzibar · 16/12/2022 20:38

After 18 years? Do you mean 18 months? Your post would make more sense if so.

girlmom21 · 16/12/2022 20:42

Why is she the issue? He's the one who sounds useless.

CherrySocks · 16/12/2022 20:49

If your father re-married 18 years ago, why has your sister suddenly asked this now? As PP says, do you mean 18 months?

EasterIsland · 16/12/2022 21:01

It’s perfectly fine not to consider your father’s next wife as nothing to do with you. I’ve never thought of my father’s series of women as any part of my family, and have nothing to do with them. My father chose not to stand by the family he created, so that’s it, as far as I’m concerned.

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