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Parking one

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whatkatydid2013 · 16/12/2022 16:31

So walking home from school tonight with my small plus three friends we came across a van parked on pavement (only a pavement on one side as a small back lane type road). Gap he’d left was too narrow for me to walk through but kids could so sent them on path and i walked on road. It’s icy here and not somewhere used to snow so have seen a few drivers losing it on the roads and in general I like kids to go on pavement.

A couple of minutes after we’d finished walking along the back lane man came stomping after us and said “Hey excuse me your kids have just scraped along side of my van why aren’t you watching them”.
I asked if he meant the one parked on the pavement and he said not. I said well I was watching them and the only car/van they were near was the big white one parked on pavement opposite a junction. If they’ve had to squish past because of how you’ve parked then that’s unfortunate but I’m not going to tell them off for walking on the pavement.
He then admitted it was his van, that he had to park there to make sure enough room for cars and that I should have taken the kids into road not just let them push back as they might have damaged van.
I said I wasn’t going to tell them to get off the pavement and walk on a road in dim light and wintry conditions on the offchance zip or something might catch the side of a van. It would be nice in general if he could park on the road so no one had to which past. We then left with him hurling abuse about finding my car and keying it, calling names etc. Part of me thinks I should have said nothing but seriously AIBU to think it’s ridiculously entitled behaviour to think you can use the pavement to park just because it’s more convenient to you and to then be rude to someone for telling their kids to walk on pavement rather than road. Have added a diagram for reference as know it’s required where parking is involved. Pink is road with footpath on left and purple is van.

Parking one
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WatchoRulo · 16/12/2022 16:36

YANBU Van Man is a cunt.

Herbie0987 · 16/12/2022 17:22

He is a selfish idiot and got found out, I live in a small town and parking on the footpath is rife.

sparepantsandtoothbrush · 16/12/2022 17:34

Herbie0987 · 16/12/2022 17:22

He is a selfish idiot and got found out, I live in a small town and parking on the footpath is rife.

It's also illegal and he could he charged with unnecessary obstruction.

I'd love to know why any voting that you're unreasonable thinks that!

Devoutspoken · 16/12/2022 17:43

Vehicle owners being precious about their great hunks of metal, literally built for the great outdoors, get on my nerves

TrashyPanda · 16/12/2022 17:46

Stupid, selfish git.

pavements are for pedestrians, wheelchairs and buggies.

not cars

Againstmachine · 16/12/2022 17:48

Parking on pavement, opposite a junction what a prat.

If you don't want people to walk past your van closely don't park on pavement.

DreamingOfAGreenChristmas · 16/12/2022 17:52

Nasty aggressive knob. (Him, not you, obv).

And it would serve him right if his van did get accidentally scratched.

Better than you and kids getting accidentally squashed in the road.

Allsnotwell · 16/12/2022 17:55

Should’ve reported his behaviour and taken a photo.

whatkatydid2013 · 16/12/2022 18:00

I’m pleased it’s not just me. One of those r things where I thought what a wanker initially but then afterwards was doubting myself a bit because he was so aggressive about it.

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Newlifestartingatlast · 16/12/2022 18:04

Againstmachine · 16/12/2022 17:48

Parking on pavement, opposite a junction what a prat.

If you don't want people to walk past your van closely don't park on pavement.

Yeah, if map is accurate he mustn’t park opposite a junction anyway - probably why he crawled up the pavement and blocked that.
rude twat.
forget about him

jeaux90 · 16/12/2022 18:05

He was an entitled arsehole.
Good for you for standing up to him.

amicissimma · 16/12/2022 18:08

"that he had to park there to make sure enough room for cars"

I don't agree with this (all too common) argument. If there isn't room to park on the road, go and park somewhere else. Don't make your problem someone else's.

I've spent most of my life in London where parking on the pavement is illegal. I wish the rest of the country would copy. There can be marked spaces where it is allowed if there is space.

YellowTreeHouse · 16/12/2022 18:11

YANBU but what an awful (and incorrect) turn of phrase “my small” is. You weren’t with your “small”, you were with your child.

iliketartan · 16/12/2022 18:13

I just assumed that was a typo is calling a child a "small" actually a thing?

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 16/12/2022 18:15

@YellowTreeHouse Hmm

Againstmachine · 16/12/2022 18:28

I don't agree with this (all too common) argument. If there isn't room to park on the road, go and park somewhere else. Don't make your problem someone else's.

Yep I've heard it numerous times, people saying parking on pavement so emergency vehicles can get past, Nope If you can't park without blocking road or pavement then find somewhere else.

Againstmachine · 16/12/2022 18:30

I've spent most of my life in London where parking on the pavement is illegal. I wish the rest of the country would copy. There can be marked spaces where it is allowed if there is space.

Whilst parking on pavement in rest of country isn't illegal, driving on the pavement unless accessing a drive is so unless they float their car There it is illegal.

TheHateIsNotGood · 16/12/2022 18:33

Excellent diagram OP as well as a pretty clear description. Man with Van was being a twat.

Spliffle · 16/12/2022 18:34

You were both in the wrong. He didn't need to park on the pavement but also, if your dc damaged his vehicle that's not great is it? Someone's 6yo kid once sat on the bonnet of my parked car and when I said to get off, her shoe buckle badly scratched the paint. I was well pissed off I can tell you.

Againstmachine · 16/12/2022 18:39

You were both in the wrong. He didn't need to park on the pavement but also, if your dc damaged his vehicle that's not great is it?

The issue isn't wasn't only parked on pavement he was parked opposite a junction he was parked illegally, if you don't leave enough room and people have to squeeze past with zips etc that's entirely your fault if it gets scratched.

stealthninjamum · 16/12/2022 18:44

I hate people that do this. I can remember wheeling a baby onto a busy road because some twat had taken up most of the pavement and god knows how bloody difficult these obstructions make it for a wheelchair user. Well done for sticking up for yourself and the children

123woop · 16/12/2022 18:46

Yanbu and legally you're in the right. There's a bridge near my daughter's school with a blind bend on it - as you can imagine, horrendous in this weather! Someone's parked their car on it as you've described the van has parked so not enough room to get through with a pram and I had to walk on the road which is like an ice rink with cars flying over the bridge at rush hour. Makes my blood BOIL but if the car gets scratched up by someone walking pavement side it's the car owners fault.

SlouchingTowardsBethlehemAgain · 16/12/2022 18:53

He is a parking cunt. When people park like this I always squeeze past on the pavement and whilst I am careful, should any accidental damage at all it is the drivers own stupid fault.

SlouchingTowardsBethlehemAgain · 16/12/2022 18:55

And I forgot to say, it is so often women and children and the elderly who are pedestrians squeezing past these parking cunts or risking their lives in traffic. Make it illegal and fine the fuck out of them.

whatkatydid2013 · 16/12/2022 18:55

Spliffle · 16/12/2022 18:34

You were both in the wrong. He didn't need to park on the pavement but also, if your dc damaged his vehicle that's not great is it? Someone's 6yo kid once sat on the bonnet of my parked car and when I said to get off, her shoe buckle badly scratched the paint. I was well pissed off I can tell you.

As far as I know it didn’t get damaged. The worst that could have happened is a zip caught it. If they’d deliberately done it then that would be a very different thing and I certainly wouldn’t let them go sit on someone’s car so can see why you were cross. I don’t really think I should have taken them onto a road in icy conditions rather than sent them along the pavement to avoid the possibility of scraping a zip on someone’s van though.

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