Just that really: long-established friendship group but I realise I've somehow fallen into the role of 'the organiser' but I'm getting a bit tired of it now and annoyed that others won't step up. I've tried mentioning it and stepping back but it's fallen a bit flat and has got to the stage that unless I arrange or organise something it just doesn't happen. A common scenario is when someone in the group has a big birthday coming up and people start suggesting that we go away together etc: but then everything goes very quiet as if everyone is waiting for someone else to step up. While organising can be fun it can be a hassle too and you feel it's your fault if something doesn't go quite according to plan.
I appreciate that not everyone likes to host in their homes but it's really not so hard to arrange even a walk or trip to the pub. Also realise that others may not want to meet as often as I do but usually people are very quick to respond to invites and appear keen to come along to whatever it is: I get the impression they would be upset if not invited.
I know that people have hectic lives (I work full-time with two DC so am also busy!) but feel you make time for things you want to do and the complaint of being 'too busy' doesn't really hold up when the same people are finding the time to post copiously on Facebook!
I suppose I just feel a bit disappointed that life can feel very dull without nice outings/ parties etc to look forward to but clearly not everyone feels the same.
Equally I'm not that surprised to hear that levels of loneliness/isolation have increased but feel people sometimes need to make a little bit more effort rather than expecting others to take the lead all the time. Currently mulling over whether to host another new year's eve party this year as while friends seem keen to come, they rarely reciprocate. Anyone else feel like this?