To be annoyed he can't read food labels?

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My husband is generally fantastic and does the lion's share of the housework/cooking. He goes out of his way to make my life easier so I know on balance this is not a big deal at all, but it's really bugging me...

When he comes home from work, sometimes he's stopped in and brought back a treat - chocolate etc. And at least half the time, he's misread the label and I can't actually have it (I have coeliac disease).

Tonight he's stopped in at Lidl and the chocolate he's picked up is not suitable for me. He knows what to look for on the label. Now I have nothing and he has it all 😭

(I'm three days out from my period, so aware I'm perhaps reacting more emotionally than is proportionate. Also feeling sad because I can't go on my work night out because there is nothing they can feed me)

Should I expect him to read the labels better (IANBU), or is this expected and I should be grateful that 97% he's more thoughtful and helpful than I am, day to day (IABU)?

Are you sure he doesn't do it on purpose so he doesn't have to share?!

Seriously though, just pick yourself up a stash with the weekly shop. That way he can get what he wants and you have a supply for yourself.

That would really piss me off. An extra two seconds that’s would take him, I refuse to believe he repeatedly forgets.

Only you can judge if he’s doing it on purpose cause he’s a passive aggressive twat or he genuinely is just massively incompetent

I reckon he does it deliberately because he wants double helpings of chocolate.

Wouldn't it be simpler to just have snacks or food in your want? We each buy what we want ourselves

He can, he’s not bothering. It’s not a nice gesture if you can’t eat it. My friend is a coeliac and I’m ruthlessly careful, no excuse at all. Does he need an eye test?

If you think he is doing it on purpose, so that he gets it all to himself, take your half anyway. Don't eat it, obviously, but give it to someone at work.
If he is just being incompetent, start to cook dinners, when it is your turn, that you know he doesn't like. When he complains, remind him of the comparison with the chocolate.

My dh once bought pork mince when the list clearly said BEEF.

And another time, a joint of pork when I’d specified gammon. ‘I thought it was gammon,’ he said, all injured. This is a man with quite a lot of letters after his name.
Still, after some richly deserved ridicule, he has eventually learned to read labels - properly.
BTW it wasn’t to avoid being asked again - he actually likes shopping.

I am SO here the this 🤣

He is hardly unaware that you are coeliac. He knows he is putting our health at risk. I'd be well pissed off in your situation.

If you ever had guests round and one had a nut allergy, would he put out bowls of nuts?

Generally misreading food labels are the first sign of needing glasses . I spent a long time accusing companies of shrinking the writing . My Husband is now also making the same accusations 🙄.

That's just so rude and uncaring.
I bet he wouldn't do that to a friend but he thinks it's ok to do it to you

I should have said, my diagnosis is fairly recent (two months ago). I've just asked him and he said he "didn't actually look" and he's still getting used to it...

He does make 70% of our food and has been really great at researching gluten-free recipes for our family.

I think if it's a lifelong condition he's always known about he should know the "safe" brands, if it's a more recent development YABU - it'll take a bit of time to sink in. Especially if he does the lions share of chores and things like that it sounds like he's generally considerate!

He probably isn't doing it on purpose or with any malicious intent, most likely it's forgetfulness as it doesn't occur to him in the moment, not saying thats ok, but unless there is a massive dripfeed it's not the worst thing. Your reminders haven't proved useful in getting it into his head, so try a different tact. Why not every time he does this donate the item to a food bank, when he is missing out on treats too it might cause it to become more memorable.

Dc1 was diagnosed at 5 and is also dyslexic but by 6 he knew how to read ingredient lists (his siblings probably learnt by 6 to). It's not rocket science I'd expect better from an adult who lives with a coeliac.

It's only been 2 months then I'd give him a break

Ok a bit of an emotional blob feed.

He is still learning that all ingredient lists need to be read obsessively. He sounds like he is learning fast.

You need to build a emotional support snack box for these occasions.
You just wait until the words "new improved recipe" appear on your favourite food.

It takes at least six months to adjust to your new normal.

He sounds lovely! A little bit incompetent, but still lovely.

Of course you should expect him to. He's just not doing it cause he doesn't give a shit. It's really not that hard, and you would think someone who loves you and cares about your health would care enough to read a label