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Original poster

To want help with my child?

34 replies

racquel86 · 15/12/2022 19:18

I work 34hrs a week, I pay for the nursery - 4 long days a week, I work shifts and occasionally have to work weekends (obvs nursery cant help me here) my partner is off but saying I might have to ring in sick as his family (who are a Jeremy Kyle special to say the least) won't help him with childcare..... I won't get paid if I ring I sick! I do everything for this little girl, she is my world..... I feel so let down that I'm doing my best for her and being stabbed I. The back at the same time!
Sorry this is just a massive rant

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Summerishere123 · 15/12/2022 19:20

Is she also his child?

WeDontNeedToTalkAboutJamie · 15/12/2022 19:22

Is your partner her dad?

AnneLovesGilbert · 15/12/2022 19:22

What they said. If he is, why does he think he’s incapable of caring for his own child? Why are you paying all childcare costs?

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racquel86 · 15/12/2022 19:22

Yes she is his child

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ChefsSalad · 15/12/2022 19:24

Why are you slating his family?

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racquel86 · 15/12/2022 19:24

AnneLovesGilbert · 15/12/2022 19:22

What they said. If he is, why does he think he’s incapable of caring for his own child? Why are you paying all childcare costs?

They can't help because they are sorting the house out for Christmas.... 🤦🏻‍♀️

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WeDontNeedToTalkAboutJamie · 15/12/2022 19:25

Well it's not their job to help. Why can't your partner have her?

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racquel86 · 15/12/2022 19:26

Sorry no point to this post.... I'm just ranting..... I'm so beside myself with worry

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DashboardConfessional · 15/12/2022 19:27

She's not their responsibility, she's his. Especially if he is off work. Why does he think she isn't?

Honestly sometimes I wonder how anyone wants to sleep with these idiots in the first place.

MolesOnPoles · 15/12/2022 19:27

He’s a shit dad.

His family may also be awful, but that’s not the issue here.

Mumoftwoinprimary · 15/12/2022 19:27

Why does your partner need help looking after his own child? Does she have severe medical needs or something?

ChefsSalad · 15/12/2022 19:28

racquel86 · 15/12/2022 19:24

They can't help because they are sorting the house out for Christmas.... 🤦🏻‍♀️

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And?

fishonabicycle · 15/12/2022 19:29

Why does he need his family to help look after his own daughter? Is he severely disabled or something?

Merryoldgoat · 15/12/2022 19:30

Why does he need help to look after his child?

LittleMrsPerfect · 15/12/2022 19:30

Why can’t your partner help?

if he is working too why can’t you both find a solution why do you have to pull a sickie?

frankiefirstyear · 15/12/2022 19:30

What help does he need?

RoseslnTheHospital · 15/12/2022 19:31

He can't look after one child of his own, on his own? Does he have some reasonable explanation for this inability?

Ihatethenewlook · 15/12/2022 19:31

ChefsSalad · 15/12/2022 19:24

Why are you slating his family?

Presumably because they deserve it? ‘Jeremy Kyle sort’ isn’t exactly the worst of insults, but paints a picture. I’d go a bit further with my in laws and call them a disgusting bunch of scumbags.

RoseslnTheHospital · 15/12/2022 19:32

Has he ever looked after her entirely on his own?

BuffaloCauliflower · 15/12/2022 19:35

You haven’t said why he won’t look after his own child? Is he sick?

strawberry2017 · 15/12/2022 19:35

Why does her dad need help looking after her?

MintJulia · 15/12/2022 19:35

Your child has TWO parents. Your partner needs to care for his child. It isn't his family's problem. DC isn't their responsibility. but his.

Tell him he's looking after DC this weekend.

Problem solved !!.

ChefsSalad · 15/12/2022 19:36

Ihatethenewlook · 15/12/2022 19:31

Presumably because they deserve it? ‘Jeremy Kyle sort’ isn’t exactly the worst of insults, but paints a picture. I’d go a bit further with my in laws and call them a disgusting bunch of scumbags.

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But it has nothing to do with the OPs issue so I don't get why she added it in to the post.

VivaVivaa · 15/12/2022 19:37

You shouldn’t ‘need help with your own child’ when your partner, her other parent is sat at home. Why can’t he be with her? Why are you blaming his family for his lack of parenting?

WeeOrcadian · 15/12/2022 19:45

The issue isn't with his family - it's with your partner. Why does he need help? And why TF are YOU paying for all the childcare?

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