To be raging about my toxic boss?

[NickD87]

Ugh. I posted a couple of days ago about my boss’ unreasonable behaviour and here it goes again.

My dear friend at work - same ‘head of’ level as me - handed in their resignation a while back. Multiple reasons (including said manager) but also they needed more money.

Our ‘lovely’ CEO tried to entice them to stay but took it very personally when it didn’t quite match up to their needs.

Today our boss out the EXACT SAME job out with MUCH higher wage (about 30% higher).

I thought it was strange the way she was going about the recruitment. But it turns out my friend recommended one of their friends who is a headhunter…and they found out about this this evening. Our boss would have known this would get back to them.

I’m livid for two reasons…

1. My friend would have stayed if that had been offered. She wanted to keep them, but flew off the handles so much once it didn’t work. This feels like a vindictive move.
2. I’m not being paid a significant amount less than this new person will be - who is my ‘equivalent’. Was always paid the same as the person leaving as our roles are similar.

I know I have an interim review on 4th January, but I’m so livid about this that I feel I should get this off my chest before the Christmas Break (my last day tomorrow).

Should I just try and forget it and wait until after Christmas? Or should I bring this up tomorrow when I have my daily catch up with her?

Maybe I'm just not "with it" tonight but I dont really get what your aibu is?

Are you asking if you should tell your boss you're livid about your ex colleague not getting more money?

It's not your business . If you're being paid and doing your job, that's all that matters, dont get involved in anyone elses drama.

This is why you should move companies frequently. They never appreciate the talent they already have and end up paying more for new recruits. Sounds like boss is a nightmare and you're both better off gone. I wouldn't bother causing trouble now, you might need flexibility around notice period, or want time off for interviews.

If you think you won’t be able to have the conversation without getting angry (not a judgement, we’ve all been there) I would leave it.

But if not, I think it would be fine to ask for a pay review in line with the advertised role. Be prepared to look for other jobs if they say no though!

Just read it again. Yes you can ask for for a raise if you want to match the new persons wage. Nothing to lose by asking.

• I’m not being paid a significant amount less than this new person will be - who is my ‘equivalent’. Was always paid the same as the person leaving as our roles are similar

Do you mean you're now being paid less?

Yes! Sorry, typo.

Yes, will definitely need to be calm before I discuss it!

I have to admit, when my friend told me over the phone this evening I was VERY close to WhatsApping the CEO!

Dont assume you know all details of new hire. Could be a first step in all upshift in pay or responsibility shift for that position. If you learn from the new hire the job description is identical and your payvis lower, definitely ask for your raise. If its more important to make a point, your managing the management will look like your business focus instead of your valuing yourself due to your impressive skills. You can be pissed. Showing it after you move up is more effective.