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Helping relative with house move

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babyonsay · 15/12/2022 19:02

Had arranged today to help relative with house move. Was at relatives house helping move boxes etc. Had some of their stuff in my car.

DS nursery called, he had a rash and not well. Left relatives immediately to go get DS. Said I would go back later when DH finished work to help.

DH can finish anytime between 4 and 7pm. I said around 6pm he should be home and I would leave to go over and help but would keep him updated. Was texting back and forth.

DH still working so I called relative to let them know, I said Dh said an hour at most now, really sorry this has happened. He said it's too late now, just leave it and was slightly off with me.

I understand it's too late, but I feel so shit for letting him down. He doesn't have many people to help etc. everything was all packed up and it was a case of me taking a few things in my car to store at my house for a few days (not the things I currently have in my car).

Aibu to feel really shit? I can't help it that ds is unwell and this happened today but can't help feeling sorry for relative

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babyonsay · 15/12/2022 19:21

Anyone?

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AnneLovesGilbert · 15/12/2022 19:26

He’s understandably disappointed, you understandably had no choice. No point at all beating yourself up about it. You did what you could, hopefully he’s grateful for the help you were able to give. Let it go!

AnneLovesGilbert · 15/12/2022 19:26

And hope DS is okay.

Sage396 · 15/12/2022 19:29

He'll get over it I'm sure - he was probably just really stressed in the moment because moving sucks.

babyonsay · 15/12/2022 19:52

Thank you. I just feel like I have let him down but it honestly couldn't be helped. I was there this morning helping him then had to leave. Just hate letting people down

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birdsandthewasps · 15/12/2022 19:55

Why couldn’t dh pick up dc so you could help your relative.?

Whatsthestorytomorrow · 15/12/2022 21:56

I’ve been that person moving house let down last minute. NGL it’s pretty shit being dropped in it, but a sick child can’t be helped. You had a better reason than the people who let us down! They’ll get over it.

bumbledeedum · 15/12/2022 21:58

birdsandthewasps · 15/12/2022 19:55

Why couldn’t dh pick up dc so you could help your relative.?

This. Why does it default to mum to drop everything for sick children.

babyonsay · 15/12/2022 22:01

Dh was working and had a very busy day with meetings etc so unfortunately that wasn't an option! Any other day he would have done it no problem. Just seems everything went wrong at the same time today Sad

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SnarkyBag · 15/12/2022 22:04

birdsandthewasps · 15/12/2022 19:55

Why couldn’t dh pick up dc so you could help your relative.?

Working trumps helping with a house move I wouldn’t leave work for this if DH were off but helping out a relative to move.

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