To ask my friend to stop sending me pics of nude women

[ChristmasTreeFairie]

My best friend is a man a few years younger than me. He’s a lovely person but he likes to chat about girls he fancies and often sends me pictures of models / actresses he likes, sometimes in their underwear or naked. He’s also told me about some of his fantasies about these girls before which frankly I don’t feel I need to hear! To me sharing this stuff with a member of the opposite sex feels like kind of a flirty thing to do and I know for sure that’s not his intention, so I think he ought to save it for his male friends. AIBU to tell him it makes me uncomfortable?

You should have told him the first time he did it.

It's completely different!

Precisely this. Do you really have to ask if you are being unreasonable?! Tell him to pack it in!

What did you say when he first did it?

I would have said “eww why are you sending me that lol”.

No offence but you seem a bit passive.

Next time he does it just “can you stop sending me the photos please I find them a bit grim and really don’t need to see them! Lol” - it can be jokey and not too formal if you find that difficult.

I do wonder if he’s trying to make you jealous though or maybe he’s secretly gay and isn’t sure which ones he’s supposed to fancy.

Get better friends

And check your own misogyny…it wouldn’t be ok if he did this with his male friends either

This!

This is probably him involving you in a fetish. Grim.

Outside of a mutual joke, I'd find a woman doing this to be quite odd, so I wouldn't necessarily appreciate them coming from.a woman either.
How are you responding to these messages ' erm very nice...' or ' fuck off'.

He's getting off on making you uncomfortable. Ditch him immediately

In what sense is he your best friend? That's creepy user behaviour.

ewww he sounds nauseating. He’s not your friend, he’s a massive creep

He sounds horrible. Tell him to stop or you will block him.

This man is not your friend.

I suspect he knows it makes you uncomfortable and that's why he does it.

I think this is a form of negging

You're supposed to think "Oh I wish I could be like these women", be desperate for his approval and then fall head over heels when he shows any interest

Either way as everyone else has said it's not OK and he's not your friend.

This is no kind of friend at all. He has zero respect for you.

I’d block his texts etc. And not open his emails. And I’d tell him why - in front of his friends potentially. What a creep.

I thought it was a crime to share naked pictures without that person's consent now? So he's essentially involving you in criminal activity.

If he knows you aren't into women why is he sending you these pictures? Think hard about it, as most people will say he wants you to feel uncomfortable. That alone can turn some men on. Would you be happy knowing you are a part of your friends sexual kink?

Hes not your friend. Hes a user.

He's a creep.
You should have said the first time he did it, "I don't want to receive pictures like that, thank you" or similar.
Tell him to stop.
If he doesn't then block him.

He is an obvious pervert and you should have told him to fuck off long ago. If this is real, which I like to think it can't be.

This is a very, very odd thing to do.

I would be re-evaluating the friendship (but not before telling him to stop sending nude/half-nude pictures).

He's getting off on sending these pics to you, and you just passively accepting it. God knows why you're friends with a creep but if youre asking questions here instead of having told him to stop all this ages ago, then the friendship dynamic is skewered. Choose your friends more carefully

It's not flirty, it's beyond creepy. Even sending them to male friends would be creepy AF. He's emotionally immature and has no respect for either you or women generally. Personally, if I were you, I would just cut him out of your life. No good will come from continuing a friendship with him.

He doesn’t see you as one of the lads, who just happens to be female. He’s making use of the long standing male expectation that women will STFU when it comes to tolerating appalling behaviour. He does it, not because he doesn’t understand but because he can.

Why would you call someone who at best is a knuckle head, a friend? It’s 2022 FFS! There is absolutely no excuse for his shitty behaviour.

For FFS just tell him to stop. If he doesn't stop block his number. Why have you not already told him to cease doing this immediately?