Would you be annoyed by this?

[mummaoftwox]

We see my PIL every saturday and sunday, usually go over in the afternoon stay for dinner and return home at the end of the night on saturday, and go out for a coffee on a sunday with them. Gathering from other threads, seeing them twice a week is more than some people see their own parents/in laws in a couple of weeks, if not months.

Buy MIL has started inviting herself round and just drops texts or calls along the lines of "i'm coming over later to see DGC", it's never a request if she may
come over, but more of a statement. This happens sometimes twice a week. It's starting to bother me a little, in the beginning it was sweet, but now it's starting to feel like we have no alone time nor privacy.

Would this bother you, or aibu?

It's up to really isn't it? If it's convenient and you get along why not. I last saw my parents a t Easter we are all different

That's far too often in my eyes. Who wants every saturday night spent with parents/in laws (even if they are super nice).

"Sorry, I am out/ busy/ have friends over/ not feeling up to a visit/ wahtever, we will see Saturday!"

Crikey, when do you get to spend down time with your partner and kids if you're there every weekend?

Grab your coats as she arrives and say shame you are just off out..
Before 2023 sees you adding a granny flat to your home...

There’s no rule about what’s too much. If you’re happy with it, that’s fine. If you want to see them less, do that. Message her back to say, no, it’s not convenient for you to come now. Make plans for Sunday mornings or Saturday nights some weeks,

I wouldn’t want to regularly spend every Saturday or Sunday with anyone (outside of partner and children). That’s a hell of a lot of free time to give up.

You need to set boundaries and say it’s not a good time tonight.

If it's starting to bother you, simply reply saying "oh no it's not a good time, looking forward to seeing you at the weekend!"

My MIL can be similar, the more we see her the more she wants to see us! Can be a nightmare sometimes, I've just become comfortable saying no now.

Yes, this would bother me, big time. But you don't need us to validate how you feel, and I mean that kindly. If it's too much for you, you need to tell them.

When MIL texts, just reply with something like "it's not convenient right now, how do you fancy coming by on X date instead?".

I never gave my ils my mobile phone number. Arrangements went via dh. If he was daft enough not to run them past me I kept to my plans and was often out! If the dc had plans they came out with me!!
Stuck home drinking tea with a house full of dc drove me nuts..
They came in a Monday.
At 8.20 am.

This. Yanbu. Your are not there to entertain your ILs, you have your own life.

Send a firm text, 'not free this afternoon. See you Sunday'etc

Same here my ils don't have my mobile number plans made through my husband.
Dealing with my own mum's enough can't be dealing with his mum too.