AIBU partner seems to have forgotten my birthday

[BirdBrain85]

Just that really. We’ve been dating for 2 years. She’s pretty horrible with remembering dates but I have made mention of my birthday (e.g. what sort of cake I might like as she usually gets one made - following reminders) and suggested a free gift she could get me that I’d like as I know money is tight.
My birthday is on Saturday. I’m away at the moment and I’ve said do you think we could do something Saturday, watch a movie etc, and she’s said she may have to go out and I should know not to ask her plans on advance as she doesn’t ever know.
I really don’t think this is a double bluff and that she’s secretly remembered. She seems genuinely clueless and it’s very “her” to not have it on her radar.
My daughter’s birthday is a week before, so there was that huge reminder also and the mention of mine following hers and how it’s the last thing on my mind right now (and now hers, apparently). There has been zero mention from her about what we might do on the day or asking me what I’d like.
I don’t know how I feel about it. I could remind her, but I don’t think I’d feel much genuine joy in the day knowing I’d had to do that. I feel like it’s probably best to let it go and enjoy the celebration with my family and good friends who have remembered. I know she will be upset about it though and will likely say I should have reminded her (although I feel like I have)…
Just wanted others thoughts really - AIBU?!

Yes, fair enough! I have no problem doing that, and she is very able to (and certainly the sort of person who would) tell me that she doesn’t want to get me a cake this year - that’s fine. I was just attempting to give some insight into the fact I have raised my birthday with her. I don’t care what she does for it but I’d like it thought about?

I think I would reply and say "ok. I would like to do something for my birthday - if you're not sure if you're free, I will book XYZ to do with my mum/child/friend/whatever" and then do that.

She may well come back with "oh shit, I forgot" and suggest something but at least this way you sound more proactive

If it was me, I hope I would’ve said ‘you don’t want me to make plans with you for my birthday?’

Otherwise, as an onlooker, she doesn’t sound that interested, I’d be tempted to let her go.

She knows you'll want to do something on your birthday as you have done for the last two years. She knows very well that you do like to celebrate your birthday, even in a low key fashion. I'd text and say ' ok well I want to make concrete plans for my birthday, as I don't want to celebrate it on my own, so I'll book to see my family for the day then'.

"she’s said she may have to go out and I should know not to ask her plans on advance as she doesn’t ever know."

Thats actually a really wanky thing to say to someone you are supposed to love when they ask you about their birthday plans.

Thank you all!

I messaged her and said I needed to talk to her about the weekend, and she then twigged. Apologised she’d forgotten and has reiterated how important I am and special my birthday is to her.

Sounds crap. Is this relationship really worth it?

But she can't put it in her calendar with a reminder?

Just go back and say, oh I thought a movie would be nice considering it's my birthday. But obviously if you turn out too tired or you might go out I can make other plans.