Family member bringing old toys

LegoVsFoot · 2022-12-15T07:23:15+00:00

Just a rant really. I have a family member with four kids around the same age as mine and whenever she comes over, without asking, she brings bags full of broken unusable toys, not even fit for charity - dirty, broken, dolls and teddies covered in paint, hair cut off, missing eyes/limbs. She sells on ebay so I assume that's where the 'good' old toys go. I've stopped inviting her for this and other reasons (although she keeps texting saying she's around and wants to drop by), but do other people do this? It's so rude. My house is not a landfill. I don't want your old rubbish.

seven201 · 15/12/2022 07:24

You need to be blunt and say no.

Pictograph · 15/12/2022 07:24

Just ask her not to bring any more.

ladydimitrescu · 15/12/2022 07:25

Tell her you dont need anymore toys then? She's obviously not doing it to annoy you, she'd bin them if she didn't think you might use them. Dropping them to yours isn't any more convenient than taking them to the tip. You're taking this way too personally.

MaryBeardsShoes · 15/12/2022 07:26

My parents in law bring old children's stuff to us all the time. They live 3 hrs away. It's all my husbands old stuff. We don't have kids and are in our 40s so you'd have thought they'd have got the picture.

IglesiasPiggl · 15/12/2022 07:27

Ask her not to bring them, and if she does, give them back to her as she is leaving.

pompomsandtinsel · 15/12/2022 07:29

Thanks for thinking of us but I'm going to have to say no to your toys. We are also having a clear out and I'm getting rid of our own broken and old toys so definitely don't want to take in anyone else's. Laugh laugh laugh. Do you want a cuppa?

onefedupmum · 15/12/2022 07:29

Tell her you don't have room for anymore stuff and that your Decluttering and have some toys for her and then regift it all back.

dooneyousmugelf · 15/12/2022 07:31

Follow the suggestions above. Don't be afraid to seem cheeky, your family member doesn't care about being cheeky by dumping her rubbish on you.

MusicstillonMTV · 15/12/2022 07:33

Go to hers instead? Take back her broken crap and add some more

miltonj · 15/12/2022 07:36

MaryBeardsShoes · 15/12/2022 07:26

My parents in law bring old children's stuff to us all the time. They live 3 hrs away. It's all my husbands old stuff. We don't have kids and are in our 40s so you'd have thought they'd have got the picture.

😂 wow

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LegoVsFoot · 15/12/2022 07:38

I've already told her and stopped inviting her over so not looking for advice, just wanted to vent and see if others do this

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LegoVsFoot · 15/12/2022 07:39

MaryBeardsShoes · 15/12/2022 07:26

My parents in law bring old children's stuff to us all the time. They live 3 hrs away. It's all my husbands old stuff. We don't have kids and are in our 40s so you'd have thought they'd have got the picture.

😂maybe they feel guilty throwing it away so want to give it back first?!

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MermaidMummy06 · 15/12/2022 07:42

My cousin does this. Old, dirty clothes & broken toys. She's even given us her kids' old school uniforms - which are from an elite school she knows we can't afford.

Unfortunately DH works for her husband's company & she just dumps it in DH's office when hes not in.

By the way she talks when I see her, she expects me to be hugely thankful & genuinely thinks I enjoy her weathly kids' poorly cared for cast offs. I sift through quickly because there's sometimes designer jackets & dresses that have been barely worn & can be saved (still stained!) and toss the rest without guilt.

notanothertakeaway · 15/12/2022 08:34

MaryBeardsShoes · 15/12/2022 07:26

My parents in law bring old children's stuff to us all the time. They live 3 hrs away. It's all my husbands old stuff. We don't have kids and are in our 40s so you'd have thought they'd have got the picture.

@MaryBeardsShoes

I think that's a bit different. It sounds more like decluttering and letting DH choose which of his childhood knick knacks he wants to keep

IamaBluebird · 15/12/2022 08:52

MaryBeardsShoes · 15/12/2022 07:26

My parents in law bring old children's stuff to us all the time. They live 3 hrs away. It's all my husbands old stuff. We don't have kids and are in our 40s so you'd have thought they'd have got the picture.

I saw some toys in a charity shop today, they were from the Thundercats 1999s tv series. £200 for the set , might be worth selling your husbands old toys .