Petty or would it be effective?

[MilkMonitor]

I have a friend. We're not that close but our DSs get on famously.

On several occasions though we've been let down by this friend over play dates leaving me with a disappointed DS and us at a loose end. She's v. bad at returning calls etc. So, I've given up making arrangements with her and I've stopped telling DS what plans I may have for him that day in case they don't work out.

This friend wants to see us next week. I said airily that I'd have to check the diary and that I'd call her. I don't think I will call her just to give her a taste of her own medicine. It's not as bad as her behaviour whereby she actually makes the arrangement and then doesn't bother to return calls to confirm the playdate venue.

Am I just just being petty or do you think it would have an effect?

Do you think she might just be a bit scatty and forget she's already got things on?

she won't realise

I had a friend like this

I dumped her

she had no thought of her effect on other people .. I let it slide for almost a year and then though .. fuck it I, and my family, are worth a whole lot more than this .. it's just plain rude!

Do you really want to stoop to her level? Call her, organise it, see her - and explain to her that it disappoints your DS and that if she can't be more reliable, you will have to forgo making plans with her.

The straightforward approach is often best, IME.

I don't think she'd notice. Do what lapin said I reckon.