To make her miss out on the Nativity?

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I have an operation this week, I've had to take the last couple of days running up to the Christmas holidays off work for recovery time. However, I still have a 5 year old to look after post op...
Originally she was going to stay at her godmothers the night before my op, then come back the evening of. She will miss one day of school.
Her godmum has now offered to have her until the weekend to give me some rest, but because they live an hour away and have their own kids to get to school they cannot take my DD to school, meaning she would take the last 3 days off school. She would miss her nativity which she was really excited about.

I'm in 2 minds about what to do, as much as I'll need to rest and recover, it's a busy week (no I can't move the op, I have tried before)
I don't want my DD to miss out on anything but at the same time don't think I'll cope very well. It's a struggle on my own at the best of times.

What would you do??

I would try to find another solution if at all possible. Missing the nativity and all the other things that happen on the last days of term would be a big deal.

Is there a a parent from the school that could for the last couple of days pick her up and drop her home again and you could maybe rest while she is out. I would say the guilt of her missing out will be worse, especially if she is excited. Good luck with the op x

You know best.

You know the op and the recovery expectations and also how your DD would handle being at home with you and how much work that would be.

If it was me, I might consider trying to get her to the play only if you’ve got local people you could turn to to help (in an emergency and/or for taking your DD to school so you don’t need to do that). If you don’t, it’s not a risk I’d feel comfortable taking.

Do you have a school WhatsApp group for the class? Can you message on there and say that you're unwell and would anyone be able to pick the kids up and take them to school? Or maybe ask a neighbour?

Not sure there's much point prioritising the nativity if you are literally barely able to look after her.

She's five so I don't think she's have any long term memories about missing the play. She will
probably really enjoy staying with her auntie if she plans special god mother treats.

My DD had to miss her nativity because of COVID. I think she'll take that with her for a long time. Id try and find a way she can go.

Having seen the impact on littles ones of missing things, I'd absolutely do anything possible to get her to the nativity. It's a formative experience and they do remember.

Generally I would do all that I can to ensure that her day to day is as normal as possible.

I think I’d try to find a way for her to take part whilst your friend cares for her. Could they perhaps get her to school late on the day of the nativity?

I would try and get her to her nativity if yiu can. My kids remember their infant nativities and they didn't do them in juniors!

I would go for the offer from the godmother for most of it but the nativity is important to her, given that she's probably quite unsettled and worried about you as well. I'd try to get a little rota going with parents/play date friends around the day before and after the nativity to make it work.

Missing the nativity is not the issue, missing school is - yes you need childcare but it can't be at the expense of your child missing education. Can't their other parent, grandparent, a friend in the same town help out?

She is five, it's the end of term I doubt she will miss anything education wise.
OP I'd really try and get her to the nativity if possible. It will be lovely for her.
Best of luck with the operation and I hope you have a speedy recovery

Are you a single parent op? If so, I suggest making the most if all help offered to aid your recovery.

If not, will your partner be able to help and therefore keep DD in school?

Take the recovery time. Mine (now 8 and 6) missed last year’s nativity because they had covid (and obviously the one before because some other people had covid…), and I’m not exactly seeing signs of lasting damage. I don’t even think they remember they were supposed to be in one last year. Do you remember your nativity plays from when you were 5? Did you remember them when you were 7?

You have to move heaven and earth to get her to her nativity OP. That sort of thing is so important for kids. Agree with some PP about asking other parents.
Good luck with the op.