I've name changed for obvious reasons.
Not even sure where to start.
I'm early 40s, married with a child. My DM is alive, living locally, my sibling also lives locally and I see them weekly. My dad died a few years ago. All grandparents are dead. The uncle and aunt relevant to the story are both alive, I don't know exactly where they live but they could probably be traced.
Growing up I spent most school holidays with my grandparents (DM side). My My aunt has learning disabilities and lived with the grandparents. Quite often my uncle, his wife and there children would be there too (it was a big farm house). HOlidays were generally fun and I've lots of good memories.
My aunt (DM sister) would frequently touch me inappropriately. I was around the ages of 5-8. I never, ever told anybody. I was always uncomfortable with it. I knew it was wrong but I also was aware that she had significant learning disabilities and I guess I just thought it was something she did and could be excused by her disabilities.
My grandparents died about 25 years ago and I can remember my mum trying very hard to get custody of my aunt. I didn't really pay much attention at the time largely because I was late teens, going out and living my own life. I did find it strange though that my mum and uncle eventually fell out over this to the extent that they haven't spoken since. He gained custody (or whatever the correct legal term is).
When my dad was dying a few years ago he made a passing comment (while on end of life care syringe driver) about my uncle- basically implying that he abused my mum (his sister!). I've recently been plagued with the thought that
A) he probably abused my aunt (his other sister) hence why she acted the way she did to me.
B) could actually still be doing this which would explain why he fought so hard for custody.
My mum and I don't really speak any more (not related to this, she has very complex mental health) so I can't bring this up wither her. My brother would literally find the uncle and kill him so I can't tell him.
I've process the abuse I experienced so don'y feel the need to approach anybody about that but I don't know if I should speak to authorities about what happened? I'm very aware that this would have implications for my mum though. It's all horribly complicated.
Well done if you've read this far!