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AIBU?

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To think it won’t get better.

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CoconutSky · 12/12/2022 17:21

I just can’t seem to get out of this shit pattern.

I’ve left an abuser after 5 years of absolute emotionally, financially abusive hell. I have no friends, barely any family. I get accused of being in a relationship with my abuser every 5 minutes by my mother who’s called me all the names under the sun to family and friends so now I don’t want to talk to them anymore as I just think everyone who I speak to will hate me

I have a 3 y/o DD. Was diagnosed with PNA after birth and I’m so worried about her health 24/7 that I’ve barely taken her to any baby groups. Supposed to be starting nursery in January but I’m so anxious about all the germs and illnesses I hate the thought of sending her. I know I need to get a grip.

I’ve been out of work for 3 years and can’t get a job. Supposed to be starting volunteering soon but I don’t know if I can afford to volunteer and not get paid as the cost of living is absolutely creasing me.

The only friend I had owes me a significant amount of money that for some reason I’m too scared to ask for it back. It’s like I’m conditioned to be scared of confrontation.

During the abuse I used to go to a coffee morning with other women going through it and every single one of them is in a better place, some are even thriving now which is amazing, except me, life is still consistently just as shit, what am I doing wrong. I’ve lost 5 family members , my dad & both sets of grandparents within 4 years and I’m starting to think this shit is just the cards I’ve been dealt and to get over it. Don’t try and progress as anything I do will be pointless.

Im also not suicidal, but I wish I wasn’t me. If that makes any sense, I’d love to be someone else even just for a week and see what it’s like.

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Kanaloa · 12/12/2022 17:26

I’m so sorry. I wish I had some really good advice that would fix everything but I don’t!

Firstly though, don’t compare yourself to others you know only through a support group. You are only seeing one small facet of their lives, they’re doing their best and so are you.

I would also look at cutting out the abusive mother if you can. And maybe even possibly trying to access some support via the GP as it sounds like you could even be suffering from maybe like a trauma stress reaction.

Soothsayer1 · 12/12/2022 17:39

I just think everyone who I speak to will hate me
I like you and I think you are worth more than this, I think it would be good if you can reduce the contact with your mother.
The situation with your friend sounds very upsetting, is there any way to recover what she owes you?

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