To be a bit hurt by this?

[TheLostNights]

I am close to my cousin who has mental health issues and sadly, had to go into hospital the other night. I went with her in the ambulance and felt really alone and lost when waiting in the hospital for news. I texted a colleague about it. We are, I thought, friends. We chat a lot, both our kids get on and she's the sort of open person who always says love you etc.
Anyway, she didn't reply. I thought maybe it was the signal. I saw her in work the next 2 days and she was texting on her phone but still had no response from her. I then was unwell last week so was off work.
Just now, she's come over to me and said 'Sorry to hear about your cousin. Bad isn't it?' She was friendly enough but now I feel really embarrassed as it's clear we were not as close as I thought. I have been there for her through her mothers death so thought it would be ok to share. Aibu to just accept we are not as close as I thought?

Some people find it hard to know what to say in these circumstances.

But, and I say this gently, because you are possibly about to get slammed, as, well, this is mumsnet, but if I were your cousin I might not be pleased about a family member discussing my mental health with a stranger.

I hope your cousin is ok.

I don't think it means anything, she may not have wanted to text as it's sometimes hard to get the words right in difficult situations.

She might be struggling herself if it's the first Christmas without her mum, and also like PPs have said, some people don't know what to say in situations like that.
Try not to take it too personally.
Hope you're doing ok?

She might have thought you were hinting you'd like her to do something and she was unprepared to do that.

Could it be something as simple as she forgot to reply then forgot all about it? I know not good but if she is generally nice otherwise I'd give her the benefit of the doubt. Or maybe she wanted to wait to speak to you in person?

I think you're right, and you're assuming a friendship that isn't there. She was concerned you were expecting an offer of help, perhaps, and didn't know how to turn you down kindly. She doesn't feel she knows you well enough to be a shoulder to lean on.

I hope your cousin is getting the help and support they need.