My sister's partner

[Tickty]

My sister has been with her boyfriend for 4 years. He has three children from a previous relationship. They live together.

She's never met the kids, he sees them every other weekend (he travels to them, 3 hours away) and he takes them on holiday twice a year.

He was getting divorced from the kid's mum when he met my sister - that divorce is still being 'sorted' because it's tricky.

AIBU to think this is massively unusual and he's lying? I can't stand him, though, so my judgement is clouded.

Does he stay overnight when he goes ?
Yes
If so, where ?
He did stay at the family home but now it's an airbnb
So he would rather rent an air bnb to have his kids that bring them to the house? Very fishy indeed

Im telling ye it is supervised visitation he has to them kids and that is what would be worrying me.

I’d be very surprised if he lives with your sister and is still in a romantic relationship with his ex wife who lives three hours away. That sounds unrealistic.

are you single?

I still think he's in a relationship with the wife, who believes he's working away. But this is a high alternative possibility.

It’s strange but I don’t think he is with the wife, nobody is going to put up with only seeing their husband every other weekend for four years.

People really do this who work away. There will be other times with "reasons" he's been away from the girlfriend where he'll have actually been seeing the wife too.

Is he on social media? Have you done some research on that OP?

Possibly hes in a relationship with another person or using the time to screw around.

I’d do a good social media stalking tbh. If you know the town, you can see if he’s on electoral roll.

I hadn't thought of that.

If it were me I'd probably follow him "home" to check it out.

I'd pay a private investigator. My DP works away a lot but we are always chatting, sending pics etc. Living with an OW would make that hard..