Dd "friends" 9 year olds

[babyonsay]

Dd has some friends where we live. She is 9, she are all round about the same age.

1 of the other wee girls are always nasty to my DD, yes kids can be cheeky to each other, but this goes beyond!

Constantly provoking my dd to get a reaction! Last week she called my dd "a bitch" I've had enough!

When speaking to the child's mother previously, said child can never do any wrong!

I've had enough.

Dd can't see that this girl isn't her friend! There are others in the group, they all take the other little girls side, leaving my dd out.

They speak on FaceTime and play games together on iPads (don't want anyone flaming me for this as that's not what I'm asking for advice on, my dd phone and iPad is monitored)

I feel close to breaking point with this child, yes as I say kids will be kids and be cheeky etc but I have witnessed it first hand how cheeky and nasty this girl can be and she just swans about as if she's not done any wrong.

Never admits to any wrong doing! Dd is naive and can't believe these people are doing this out of badness etc, she just wants them to be her friends. So sad.

Can anyone offer me any advice please before I go crazy

Don’t let them play together.
Ask her actual friends over.
Are they are school together? If so speak to her teacher.

Kindly, I think you're over-involved, over-invested and need to just leave it. Your DD absolutely will not get through her life without having a falling out with her friends, she will not reach adulthood without being called names and she will learn to manage her social interactions by herself - that's a reality for every child. Nothing is as black and white as you're making it either. When I was a teacher, I can't tell you how many times parents would think that their child is always the one isolated from the group or left out or called things. In reality, everyone in a group had their turn of it but the parents (for obvious reasons) only ever heard about it when it was their child. Honestly and gently, you need to get over your obsession with hating a 9yo child because your anger here is going to be more harmful to your child's social happiness than anything the other children are doing. No one's children as are innocent as their parents think they are - no, really.

Take her phone and iPad away and stop her playing with them?
If they’re in school together speak to the teacher but the school can’t help the situation out of school.

And unfortunately not all children are nice. Your daughter will find this out in her own time but until she’s old enough you need to manage the situation. Which means not playing or interacting with these girls at all.