Had enough..

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I have a five month old son. Wakes up a few times in the night so partner does most night feeds, he will wake up once or twice. I'm a sahm,partner doesn't work. Partner says he's looking for work but he's not. I clean up, tidy up, he makes a mess and doesn't see it. Sleeps through the day when I'm up with baby, which is fine I'm babies mum, but he doesn't help with bills either. Before anyone comments that I'm a mug, yes I know but I'm really contemplating leaving him now. He said he would find work when baby is 3 months old and it hasn't happened, he didn't even bother to turn up to a course he said he'd do. I understand if he's doing a couple of night feeds he would sleep a bit extra in morning but sometimes he sleeps for hours and I'm the one who does all washing, cleaning, buying food shops, paying bills. I'm drained and exhausted from it.

By the way we had a bad bereavement last year so he was off work from that, before anyone wants to know or comments about it. Which I accepted he would need time to digest, but time is going on and I thought he would've made more effort now.

You have a cocklodger, he brings nothing to the table, and doing a couple of night feeds doesn’t mean he’s a good dad. It won’t get any better. Get rid asap!

it would be much easier if it was just you and the baby less cooking less cleaning less bills -

Why are you wasting your time.

Just checking I've read this right... you're a SAHM so you're not on mat leave? By all accounts, he's a SAHD. Did he work prior to the baby?

Yes he sound's totally useless to be asleep all day and not contributing anything towards housework but he's doing the night feeds?

If you're not happy with the way things are heading, get a job, leave him and become financially independent.

How are you affording to live with no income?
But yes to echo other posters - it’s unlikely he’ll change. You need to think about your next steps.

@Sparklesocks i am on mat leave and have universal credit to make up the rest. I intend on going back to work in the spring.

How is one parent a ‘stay at home mum’ the other ‘not working’.?

Surely you both are just not working.

Yes get him out asap. He is lazy excuse for a parent.

Oh I see, sorry SAHM implies you don’t work hence my confusion. Yes absolutely your mat pay will only go so far too, so something has gotta give.

Surely you both are just not working.
OP on mat leave.

Ask him to leave

Sorry about the confusing saying I'm a sahm, I am one currently as still on mat leave, is what I meant.

So you are on May leave from your job and he does nothing…. Yeah get rid of him, many people have bereavements they still manage to go to work to support their children!