Kids in bed

[Brightun]

My DC are 5, 3 and 3. Every night at least one of them, sometimes 2, occasionally 3 come into my bed between 0200-0400. There’s enough room in a superking and once they’re in with me we all get back to sleep until 0600 which is when we have to get up during the week anyway. During the week I’m on my own because DH works away and I don’t really mind but when he’s back at weekends he absolutely hates it but isn’t willing to put any children back to bed.

my AIBU is whose job is it? I don’t mind having them in with me during the week and think they will probably grow out of it. DH wants me to start putting them back to their own beds every time they come in during the week so he doesn’t have to do it on the 2 nights a week he’s here.

Get a super king bed.

It's DPS responsibility to put them back if he wants it so much.

You need to start making them sleep in their own beds.
Return them to their own when they come to yours during the week. They will soon learn after a few stern no's and a march back to their own bed.
I'm on your husband's side. You should be teaching them while he's away, not waiting for him to get home.

In the OP it literally says they have a super king

All other mammals keep their young with them for sleeping. I think it's quite sad that they need to be 'marched' back to their own beds. They come in for comfort. Part of family life, in my house anyway. Each to their own of course, and I can understand OP's partner wanting to sleep in his own bed, but the musical bed thing ensures that everyone gets a decent night. Hopefully @Brightun 's relationship is a loving enough one to be able to have a decent chat about it

I love sleeping with my kids. Only the youngest comes in now. When she does, my husband gets in her bed as he doesn't like sleeping with her. Problem solved, everyone sleeps.

i agree this is not your problem and your husband sleeps soundly 5 nights, you deserve to aswell

The children should be in their own beds regardless of whether he is there or not.
whichever parent is present needs to put them back. Every.single.time.

She shall not parent except the way you tell her too? Good to know there is only one right way for Every.single.child at Every.single.time.

OP if he wants to change it he does the hard yards. You're happy with the status quo, he gets uninterrupted sleep 5 nights a week and thinks you should spend 7 nights a week getting by on little sleep because he doesn't want to be disturbed by the kids. Really not a reasonable explanation.

Hes not being unreasonable wanting the kids in their beds and him in his own bed. I'd be putting them back in the week so they find that routine of staying in their own beds.

Him/you putting them back of a weekend is only a weekend solution.

Oops I can't spell. I blame the chuckling the post caused.

Get the children to sleep in their beds.

Mine slept with us 7 nights a week trotting in around midnight, normal double bed. We managed to sleep fine you get used to it

Why should they?

I hate kids sleeping in my bed so I understand where he’s coming from. I wouldn’t want to come home and have to share a bed with kids.