Dd is ten and we are currently in the process of applying for an asd/adhd assessment through our doctor but we have been told there will be at least a two year wait. School think she is fine a academically and socially, she’s just quiet but we have so many problems at home. She has such issues with clothes- wears the same scruffy clothes every day which she insists on and gets completely anxious at the mere thought of trying anything else on. She also makes me iron her clothes over and over, screaming at me that it is not good enough. Consequently we are late for everything.
She has meltdowns all the time over the slightest thing, it’s like constantly treading on eggshells. She often uses violent language and lashes out too. Daily life is horrible. She also has a million and one bedtime rituals that she involves me in and screams abuse at me if I don’t do things just right. She doesn’t get into bed till gone midnight. It’s like she rules the house. The only time I feel remotely happy is when I’m away from her at work. I know I’m not supposed to feel this way and maybe I truly am a horrible person but I hate my life. I feel tired, depressed and physically drained. It’s like being in a trap I can’t get out of. We always used to gave fun and be happy, I don’t know what’s happened to us but life has become so hard.