Ok, so my brother came to UK to study in university 3 years ago. I financed the course he studied and paid ten thousand. Then he wanted to study further (a very tough course) which is for 2 years and the first instalment of ten thousand was paid by my parents. Then second was paid by me that is four thousand. All this while he was staying in my house and I was bearing all his expenses including pocket money, food, clothes etc.
He was at the beginning of his third semester (start of Covid lockdown ) when he suddenly started living outside stating that he’s living at his friend’s house. All lockdown he didn’t come to ours and slowly stopped picking calls and responding to messages. Being worried I used to call his university asking for his well being and sometimes also called police as he would not call or messages and my parents who live in another country were worried.
After a year, he called my mum and told them that he has a girlfriend and expecting their first child. Now the problem is I called him at my responsibility and he has betrayed my trust. His announcement has come as a cultural shock to my parents as in our family no one has child outside the wedlock. He’s the only son of my parents and he had damaged them completely. I know in this part of the world it’s very normal to have child without being married and I respect that and don’t judge.
Before he left my house (during lockdown ) he asked me £2000 for something and I gave him. After a year and half he came to my house to take his suitcase and behaved so weird. He was like a mad person, coming to hit me and had careless attitude . Since then he never calls me or pick my call or message me. Very weird ! He would call me parents once in 3-4 months. They are always asking for him, crying and begging him to come and see them but this person’s heart would not melt a bit. I wonder how much a person can change in a year ? From being a lovely son, brother to this cold blooded person. Plus how ungrateful of him. I did so much for him and in return he gave me this. My parents blame me for all this and I don’t complain as I was the one who called him to UK so that he could study and do well in life.
Last year I received a letter from his university that he needs to pay ten thousand fees for his third semester. I made him and his partner aware of it but today I again received a letter saying that they will take legal action if not paid. He has changed address for bank, Job and everything but cunningly not for university. What should I do ? I don’t know his address, don’t know anything about his whereabouts. How can I complain about him ? He’s in what’s app but hardly open my messages. I’m so angry at him and hoping the karma hits him back soon.