To be embarrassed I told Uber driver my whole life story?

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I’m feeling really embarrassed. I just told my Uber driver my whole life story. Was out with DH on our very rare date nights. Not been getting on tbh, been fighting lots. I stupidly thought I’ll ask him out plans for Xmas and he got angry and said why can’t it just be us? (Us and kids). I explained I haven’t seen my parents for 2 years and as my dad is very I’ll this well may be our last Xmas with him. He flew off the handle and left me there! I was so embarrassed. I waited for 10/15 mins and he didn’t return. I ordered myself an Uber and burst out in tears telling Uber driver my whole life story and how I want to get back to work and how DH isolates me from my family and friends. Worst thing is my anxiety is making me paranoid and I think Uber driver knows my family, I have a very distinctive and unique surname. I know that a very small chance so not dwelling on it, but I’m really upset I came home and DH said nasty things about my “ugly big teeth “. I really hate him.

Telling the Uber driver is the least of your problems … you husband is a moody cunt who abandons you on a night out, and makes horrible remarks about your appearance.

Go see your parents at Christmas, and stay there

Trust me, he won't give it another thought.

He's heard dozens of life stories, and probably wasn't even really listening!

Also, your DH is a knob.

He probably just thought what a twat, and has now forgotten about it.

Second that you should just go to your parents for Christmas.

Sorry op, but I think @ExtraOnions has nailed it.
your marriage is over, start thinking about you.

I used to drive for Uber, and heard all sorts! Don’t give it another thought. Your DH though - ugh. Get rid

I’ve posted about our new home under a different username so you might recognise this - we’ve bought a new home (all under his name) and he got me to sign a notice that if we divorce I will move out. When I questioned this I was told it’s standard and anyone over age on 18 whose not on mortgage / deeds must sign one. He’s always threatening me that the kids and I cannot move into the new home. He’s taken away all my excitement of the new house. He then says he was “just kidding”. But then the next fight he repeats it again. I’m so torn. I have phoned up womens refuge, they really listened but if I’m honest gave me no help apart from that as I’m a British citizen I can apply for housing! That could take months. I thought they would say they will support me and I can leave him with a guaranteed place to go,

Why are you not on the mortgage/deeds? Why haven't you seen your parents for 2 years?

Your 'D'H is a twat and I seriously think you need to LTB.

What did the Uber driver say after you told him all that? I hope he was supportive. He might not know you but still. I do my best to be kind to strangers when I'm out and about.

Much Love to you. So sorry you've had a horrible night

As I’m not working he said it doesn’t make sense to have my name on the documents. He never asked /discussed with me he just responded when I questioned.

he gets upset when I visit my family so to avoid drama I haven’t been. They don’t live here they live away.

uber driver was so lovely! He was a sweet young guy so I felt it was awkward for him but he listened.

Your DH sounds controlling, nasty and vindictive. There are way too many MN people quick to say LTB. In your case financial abuse is in the near future, isolation is already happening and verbal abuse sounds commonplace so I think you should concentrate on secretly planning your escape. Be very careful.

You also sound a bit in denial about taking charge of your situation. I understand - my Dad was like this with my Mum and she used
to say helplessly "but where can I GO"? She's now 80 and my "D"F is abusive, controlling and nasty and she's lived with that for 50 years. Save yourself and your children and get out while you are young. Big hugs.

Not even going to discuss the Uber driver; your anxiety is creating a decoy.

Can you discuss this with your parents re maybe staying with them if you leave?
Get legal advice about the house and the paper he made you sign.

Oh and my DF messed up every job, connection and friendship my Mum had including making a big issue of Grandmother staying with us temporarily when she was in the last years of her life. My Mum was gutted.

Take the kids and go to your dad this Christmas.
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He’s screaming right now and word for word what he just said: “why did you have to spoil today? We were finally getting on. Why do you live your family so much. Go and fucking live with them”.

in the past I would feel guilty for “spoiling” wherever I was being accused of but I need to plan what we’re doing plus tell my mum, I also wanted to get In Touch with 2 of my childhood friends who I haven’t seen for nearly 20 years.

*love not live

You really need to get away from him, OP. Stay strong and good luck. You deserve better.

Seriously Hun you deserve better.

why does he hate your family so much? Are they mean to him or something? Having a go at you when you want to see your ill father is shitty behaviour.

All this about having to sign about moving out the house is just total bollocks -your husband is financially abusing you , lying through his teeth ( the big ugly ones ) exercising coercive control and in general being a total cunt! For gods sake get rid

Your h is a right cunt. Why are you still with him? You deserve better, babe.

He’s not wrong about the document; if you aren’t on the mortgage or the deeds, anyone over the age of 18 does usually have to sign to say that the banks interest in the house is prioritised over their own; ie if it was repossessed, you’d have no grounds to stay. It shouldn’t have mentioned divorce, and divorce settlements are handled differently.

I’d advise legal advice on where you stand and what exactly you’ve signed. He’s a twat.

Uber driver is the least of your worries. Please talk to your family, tell them what's happening with that awful man and please get some legal advice. Leave.

But the his reasoning for keeping her off the deeds is pure control !

He went and had sex with his wife he don’t care about you or your problems