To only invite some family to my wedding

[Woahtherehoney]

I have a big family and only want a small wedding (40 people max) - I have friends I really want there and it’s not that I don’t want my family there it’s just I don’t speak to them all the time and we aren’t super close (we get on just not really close)

I am best friends with my cousins girlfriend and want her at my wedding - we’ve been friends since we were very young and she just happened to get with my cousin a few years ago and they have kids. If I invite my friend and her kids I’ll obviously invite my cousin too. But I don’t want to invite my other cousins if it means I cant invite people I really want there and am very close to due to numbers.

Am I being unreasonable to only invite a couple of my cousins and not all of them to my wedding? Or if I’m inviting one do I need to invite them all?

You really have to invite close family like siblings and both sets of parents, but with cousins it’s up to you, yanbu. Just make sure you communicate well via gamily channels or directly that you are having a small wedding for close family and ftiends only.

I expect most people will be relieved, is a pain paying ££ on hotel and present etc if you aren’t close to the couple. But you may get the odd offended aunt / stirring parent so do communicate clearly.