Sick of bitchy workplaces

[Rolaskatox]

Honestly dream of working from home a lot of the time.
Had it on Tuesday where one woman left the room and the other two started sniping that she was lazy. I bet they didn't say it to her face

Then yesterday, some other people were talking about absent male staff members, criticising the way one did his job and how he didn't really do things right. Then complaining how another one loved talking about themselves and was too 'in your face'.

To do it in the workplace in front of other colleagues too is especially low.
I mean we might think these things sometimes but I've no time for two faced people.

I literally just sat with my back to them doing my own thing but it just puts me off wanting to know them. Do you have people like this at work? How do you deal with it?

It sounds like you eavesdrop on conversations and then bitch about them behind their backs too.

I can't see that much difference in your behaviour tbh.

All you can do is let them get on with it and to continue to stay well out of it. It’s a kind of bullying.

If a colleague is lazy and not doing their job properly it creates a bad work atmosphere and it is only natural that people are going to talk about it. It is not down to those colleagues to tell them to their face. It is down to the manager.

@Keyansier she can't exactly miss it ,can she if they are gassing about people right in front of her? So leave the OP alone !

They're sat 2 metres away from me, but maybe I'll stick in some earplugs next time 😂

It's just their opinion that she's lazy, doesn't mean it's true. They should speak to the manager rather than spreading it round the workroom

I remember once a colleague of mine sent an email bitching about me to another colleague but he sent it to me by mistake. The look on his face when he realised! He did apologise to be fair and I embarrassingly ending up crying, but in my defence I was going though a rough patch at the time.

I ended up leaving my old job because of how awful these "mean girls" were. We were all late 30s / early 40s and this group of 4 women would bitch about everyone (and do things that go against GDPR but the manager didn't care even when it was reported). I thought I was "friends" with a couple of them until someone else told me that they had been bitching about me when I wasn't in. It was horrible. I then played things cool and didn't get involved with them as much (kept myself to myself more) and, when I left, they didn't sign my leaving card / say goodbye. It's worse than a school playground.

It's not eavesdropping, I used to work in a place like this and I wish I hadn't had to listen to it. Worse, if you tried to block them out you often got "Loics... Loics... LOICS! Don't you think she looks awful in that dress?" or whatever it was that day. I told them I wasn't interested in talking about people, which was probably gossiped about when I left the area. They talked about everyone as soon as their back was turned though, so I figured if not that, they'd just pick something else about me to bitch about anyway.

It’s a YANBU from me, places like this are awful. And you are ironically less popular if you don’t partake in the bitchy gossip.

Find somebody nice to be your work buddy and it's all a lot more tolerable.

I once worked somewhere where a bitchy colleague started on about my hair colour (naturally white nowadays), saying it was unprofessional.
I dyed it blue.

I think some people are just like this unfortunately. There were two guys at my last place who did stuff like this, we all just avoided them.

One of the main reasons I am freelance is behaviour like this. It was vicious! I worked in a multinational for a period of time and I ended with my mental and physical health shot to pieces.
I now have a fantastic 'colleague', a fellow freelancer, and we work together in cowering places if we are not with clients, so we get the whole work banter but without the dramas.

Some workplaces are totally toxic! Mine is one of them unfortunately. Just steer clear, and look for another job.