Would you visit someone when ill?

[MarmiteCoriander]

Relatives arrived unannounced, and the 1st thing they said was 'don't kiss me, I have a stinking cold!!!'. I kept my distance and ushered them out asap, but AIBU that you shouldn't visit people when ill? Whether its a stomach bug, 'stinking' cold, cough or anything else contagious? Of course, they are covid positve now too!

No, that's rude and inconsiderate.

If I felt I had to go somewhere I would at least warn the host in advance and give them the option.

Stomach bug, severe cold, chest infection, kids with chicken pox etc. then no, absolutely not. Mild cold in winter - well, most people would never see anyone if they didn't still go out with mild colds. Sounds like they were on the worse end of the spectrum though.

I would visit people with a cold and would be happy for someone with a cold to visit me. I’m a teacher and some years have had an almost permanent cold from about September to March with all the bugs flying round my class, especially when I taught early years and I’d never see my nephews or friends young children if I avoided them during every cough/ cold etc. However if I was under the weather I would warn the person in advance first and give them the chance to rescind the invitation or rearrange for another time if they didn’t feel happy to take a chance with my germs!

If it was a cold I would ask the person I was visiting what they thought "I have a cold, are you still happy for me to come or would you rather reschedule" etc.
If it was something worse I just wouldn't risk it and not go.

I think it's very selfish to just turn up with a cold without having mentioned it in advance.

Yanbu, this drives me mad.

My dd ended up in hospital for a week, needing oxygen and fed through a tube because some idiot refused to wait until their cold was away until meeting my newborn.

No, I wouldn't.