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To ‘forget’ to contribute to colleague’s birthday card/present?

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ProserpinaProserpina · 07/12/2022 21:28

I’ve just been asked to contribute a fiver to a birthday whip round for a colleague. It’s a small team that I am no longer directly involved with, although do still work within the organisation. This woman is one of the main reasons I chose to move away from that team. She’s perfectly nice to my face but she’s incredibly critical of others (so I guarantee she bitches about my work to others), has a holier than thou attitude, constantly micromanages despite not actually being a manager, and is just generally a bit of a twat in her behaviour/opinions/interactions.

I am going to the social event at which the card/gift will be presented. Finances are a bit tight at the moment and I find myself being really resentful about having to give money that I might otherwise buy myself an occasional fancy coffee or a treat for the kids with to someone who I secretly find very unpleasant.

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HippeePrincess · 07/12/2022 21:29

Just decline, no need to forget!

AdoraBell · 07/12/2022 21:30

Agree, just decline.

jamira · 07/12/2022 21:31

Of course you shouldn't contribute - no guilt whatsoever!

MolesOnPoles · 07/12/2022 21:36

I wouldn’t contribute.

We once had a truly, truly hateful manager at work. When she left no one would sign her leaving card and I really hope it made her reflect on what a bitch she’d been.

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