To ask if this is narcissism?

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I recently left domestic abuse. I’m undergoing some counselling which is exploring other personal relationships and I have been treated quite poorly by people im really close to, my old close friend for example and im wondering if this is narcissism or just being a shit person? I feel like there’s something wrong with me because this kind of person is who I seem to navigate towards without intending

so who I would once describe as a close friend actually really seems to be a shitty person

always the victim, only ever talks about herself, claims to be an empath yet is the most unsympathetic person ever. she also got me in trouble a few years back before i met my abuser w regards to a mobile phone and has never once paid me back for what she owes me or apologised for the damage she caused on my credit file.

is this narcissism? Am I the bloody narcissist? There are so many similarities to her and my ex abuser. Any insight? I should’ve asked my counsellor but my head was fried after that session. And I’m just thinking why do I put up with it.

Do you mean "narcissist" in the clinical sense, or in the laymans sense?

Unfortunately, "narcissist" and "narcissism" are words like so many other words with very specific meanings that have become misused to the point where they don't generally have any meaning anymore.

I was married for 17 years to a woman who is clinically diagnosed NPD and dealing with someone who is a true narcissist is unlike anything else.

Given the process to diagnose narcissism, no way for anyone here to make that determination in this venue.

As far as narcissistic traits go, most people show traits from time to time, but I am not seeing anything in what you have posted here to suggest narcissism.