I have an 18m old. It took 3 miscarriages, gave birth at 39. Had an ectopic this year, before the new role (not planned). I work for a highly dominated male industry ( I’m an architect - women are prevalent at a lower level, but not well paid). I’m now in a new role with an amazing boss, same firm. It’s a senior management role, but not project based and can give me a better paid, flexible role/good progression if I work hard. The new role has not started well due to terrible illnesses with the toddler and planned holiday, but they all seem happy with me and the work I do.
Husband does a completely equal role in parenting, housework, mental load, so no complaints and is very supportive. He earns about 15% more than me.
We would like to try for a second child. Is it too soon, have only been in the role a few months? Just worried about my age, will be 41 soon. Should we start now, or leave it a bit? It’s been easy for me to get pregnant, it’s just keeping it (although the doctors have narrowed down the issues now and have the necessary treatment).
The role is only for 18m, then I get to choose where I go next, that’s why I’m cautious. I won’t have enough time to make my mark and deal with the rife toddler sickness we are having at the moment.
Also worried about trying and having more miscarriages and needing time off work - have managed to blag it so far with holidays and sickness reasons.
Just need some advice really - all appreciated!!