To wonder whats with all the ‘can you see a line?’ threads on chat?

[Gingerangel]

MN have specific topics that makes a lot of sense and keeps the site feeling organised. So what’s with all the people posting photos of their pregnancy tests on general pages like chat asking if people can see a line ? 🤨

Why not post on pregnancy, or conception?…

Not everyone browsing the chat board wants to look at a photo of a stick you have pissed on and if you can’t see a line then I can’t see it either and there is no line , give it a few more days or a week and try again 🤦‍♀️

might also be triggering for mumsnetters who are experiencing infertility. Who would normally avoid the pregnancy/conception board and thinking that the general chat page would be a safe place to browse.

I have also seen lots of threads on there about breastfeeding… Would you not get better advice on the pregnancy or parenting topics? Would that not be a more appropriate board to post your thread on?

rant over

p.s I’m PMSing if you can’t tell😤

A ‘Can you see a line’ topic would be great, but I don’t think anyone would use it.

It;s not just pregnancy tests. It's covid tests too.

I hid certain boards because I REALLY don't want to come across threads on them and it annoys me when people post outside of the topics for the sake of more responses.

I don't understand how if strangers with varying eye sight strengths looking at a photo in not great lighting on their screens with their own lighting and brightness levels can see your 'ghost line' and yet you there in the flesh cannot tell if there is a line or not. How bad is your eye sight?!

Yes there was a point when you didn’t know which one it would be until you opened the thread.

There was a line on that one.

Very faint, but it was there, confirmed by a now very obvious line. I can rarely see these lines either, but I could see that one.

Ha this is so true! An exhaustive list of ‘symptoms’ but they haven’t tested and can’t get a test until next week.

Or ‘my periods 3 days late and I’m testing negative’. Replies of ‘ring the GP and demand a blood test’. Rather than just, maybe, wait. Because of course GPs have nothing better to do and endless resources.

I agree with Sparklingbrook. Like most women on here I know what a pregnancy result looks like. I can rarely, if ever see a line. There's nothing wrong with my eyesight.

@gaf Yeap, especially as if your period is actually MIA, a GP won't see you for 3mo!

Even so it still takes time for the pregnancy hormone to reach detectable levels… and I still don’t want to see pissed on pregnancy tests on the chat or Aibu boards … keep that shit to yourselves please🙄

Oh I agree that it's better to keep it on a specific board. Or just not share at all

I was just answering the question about why people test so early these days. Because they can! Pregnancy hormone levels are detectable really early these days, within a week or so of conception. There are lots of reasons why a woman might prefer to know as early as possible, for instance it can be useful to know if you're having recurrent very early miscarriages.

Because that would be too much of a good idea 🤦‍♀️

Yeah I actually think it’s quite a selfish thing to do, they are posting on chat or AIBU boards for more responses. Not thinking about the mumsnetters who are struggling with infertility or miscarriage who will be deliberately avoiding the conception/pregnancy boards. They really don’t want to come across these ‘do I see a line’ threads. It’s just incredibly insensitive.

Post your pregnancy tests in the appropriate place!

Totally, op. Glad you brought it up this was my sentiment, too whenever I unfortunately opened one of them.

They lure you in with misleading or deliberately obscure titles as well ... ughhh so selfish and thoughtless.

This is really quite a mean thread. I get your point op I do, but I think people on here have been quite bitchy about it. These women are desperate. I was one of them. Sometimes no there isn't a line, but sometimes there is and you just want some confirmation you're not actually seeing things and others can see it too. It's hard to believe when you've struggled so much

@PAFMO

People have been moaning about the "line" threads for as long as I've been here (my "line" is now at university.)

I can't believe somebody actually put this. 'my LINE is now at university!' 😂 ALWAYS on these type of threads, at LEAST half a dozen people say that. Bet you thought you were so clever and original saying that!

Also, your LINE may have been a baby, but it would have been a VISIBLE LINE!!! Not one that wasn't there, like people put on here!!!

@PAFMO

Presumably lots of thread titles could be "triggering" so here's the thing. How about you don't open them and move on?

What an ignorant comment. (Bet you thought you were clever and original saying THAT as well.) As several posters have stated, sometimes it's not indicated in the thread title that it's an 'am I pregnant' thread?! Also, even if it DID indicate it, WTF is it doing on AIBU or CHAT? Go and stick it on pregnancy board where these threads belong! No-one wants to see them here.

Not a mean thread, and people HAVEN'T been 'bitchy' But nevertheless, PUT IT ON THE PREGNANCY/CONCEPTION BOARDS. Why put it here FFS, where people DON'T WANT TO SEE IT. Surely putting it on the boards it BELONGS on makes more sense?!!!

@PurpleButterflyWings why is it any different to people posting in aibu for 'traffic' though ? As someone else has said, it's clear from the title what it's going to be, don't open it... it's pretty simple.

I don't understand the issue myself but we're all different

Have you not read ANY posts on here? It's jarring and upsetting for people TTC and who have suffered a loss/miscarriage. There is a specific board for pregnancy tests and suchlike. The PREGNANCY boards!!! Put them there. Apart from not belonging on AIBU and CHAT, they are super annoying because they're always negative pregnancy tests!!!

I'm so old we had to wait until we'd missed 3 periods before we went to see a GP about being pregnant. I don't think it's particularly a good idea to check after being a couple of days late, could be a number of reasons why your period hasn't arrived bang on the day.

@PurpleButterflyWings the main thing I took from the replies was that it's more annoying than triggering ! I have been that person who has suffered loss and infertility so I don't need telling it is triggering. But most of the replies were 'there is NEVER a line' etc, and that, is just coming across as bitchy.

I don't blame these women asking if someone else sees the line. Sometimes they're desperate, and trying for a baby for ages is very lonely experience. But yeah, forum can be a mess.

I agree with the notion of just not opening the thread if it's in the title. If you get that triggered over certain threads/ topics, what happens when you're out shopping or whatever and see babies/ children?

@Peoniesandcream we keep it all locked in until we're alone and can sulk in private.

Maybe if these types of threads annoy you just don't click on them and don't read through?

You may, or may not, know that it can be quite stressful trying for a baby. Maybe some of these posters find comfort in the responses of other people, and genuinely would like their opinions.