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Would you be annoyed re change of plans

8 replies

Rolaskatox · 05/12/2022 22:18

We were supposed to go to another area in the UK with partner and my in laws on a specific date overnight.
The date was agreed two months in advance, my partner and I both booked the days off work to accommodate it, and i booked my partner and I some accommodation. Fortunately, this was all we'd booked for now, however stupidly I booked non refundable.
The reason we were going was for his mother's birthday.
Now, 2 weeks before she tells us, "Oh, we're not going anymore." It was a very trivial reason, some activity they wanted to do there was fully booked. There's still plenty of very similar activities to do there, and otherwise, it's a huge place.
As I said we've booked the time off work and I've paid for accommodation. I really wish I hadn't booked non-refundable.
If it were for illness or an emergency I'd understand. My partner and I can still go there alone, but there's now talk of doing something else for her birthday.
If it involves going somewhere else, AIBU to not go? It's not fair they messed our plans about and I'm not losing money because they changed their minds on a whim

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KitchiHuritAngeni · 05/12/2022 22:22

I would LOVE that, you've done all the right things to seem keen on a family get together. Now the family has pulled out so you get a couple of days alone and in peace, and you can use it as an excuse not to go to whatever else they arrange.

An introverts dream 🤣

Doingmybest12 · 05/12/2022 22:48

It would be reasonable to say that you've booked the other venue and can't change it or your time off so sorry but you can't make it to the celebration now.

OhIdoLike2bBesideTheSeaside · 05/12/2022 22:49

Just go where you have booked and paid for and if she does something else that's up to her

Helpwithdaughterpls · 05/12/2022 22:51

what @KitchiHuritAngeni said. This has worked out BRILLIANTLY for you

Changingplace · 05/12/2022 22:54

I’d be massively pissed off with them!

I’d say they need to pay you back for the non refundable room you’ve paid out for and I’d still go.

I definitely wouldn’t go and do the other thing they’ve randomly decided on, how ridiculous of them!

Penguinsaregreat · 05/12/2022 22:54

Stick to your original plans and if they ask you next year laugh and say no, not after last time.

Notimeforaname · 05/12/2022 22:57

Brilliant. Off you go, its paid for! Yhey dont really expect to you pay for a room you wont use?!

Peashoots · 05/12/2022 22:58

I would tell them you’re pissed off. I also wouldn’t change my plans. I can’t stand flakiness! Especially when it leaves others out of pocket.

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