AIBU to think this is unreasonable?

[TrustMe5]

A friend of mine was at a wedding recently and left her children (aged 6 and 10) in a hotel room for a stint when the band were playing. Children were together with two other children aged 10 and 12. 12 year old had a phone and friend said they were all watching a tv. I know my friend popped in to see them and so did the other parent, and then left the event early to take them to bed.

im just concerned that it maybe wasn’t appropriate, especially with the youngest being 6. I know it’s done now, but I don’t know whether I should mention it to my friend in a polite way, to maybe explain that it could have been risky.

Im not being judgemental here. She’s a lovely mum, just wondering if I’m being over the top or if it’s worth mentioning.

I think 12 is old enough to watch a 6 year old for an hour or two, particularly when both parents popped in to check.

If you were going to mention it you should've done it at the time.

What did your “friend” say when you challenged her @TrustMe5 …

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..oh wait …

I know it’s done now, but I don’t know whether I should mention it to my friend in a polite way, to maybe explain that it could have been risky.

Why? What are you hoping to achieve by doing this?

Did anything bad happen?

I’m fairly uptight, but I think that’s fine.

Okay… from these first few replies, it’s obvious I’m being very dramatic. Im an anxious, sometimes slightly irrational person so it does happen from time to time. 🤦🏻‍♀️

if the 12 year old with a phone was sensible I see absolutely no problem with this. Move on.

"I'm not being judgemental here"

Yes you are.

What would your basis be for challenging her? What do you think would go wrong? What are you worried about?

Im not being judgemental here

You are. HTH.

I really don't understand what the issue was?

Well yes you are judging her as being irresponsible and a bad parent. But no with adults popping in and it only being an hour or so, the 12 year old having a phone I don't see the issue.

Two 10 year Olds, a 12 year old with a phone and a 6 year old, I don't see an issue. Your friend knows her DC best if that's safe for them and if the older children are responsible types. It's really dependent on what the children are like. I certainly wouldn't be raising it I wouldn't do it with my 6 year old, but he has SEN and perfectly capable of wandering off or opening the door to a stranger.

You absolutely are being judgemental.

I would've been fine with that.

Don’t say anything . What do you want to achieve this ? 12 is secondary school , they had a phone and I presume could have left the hotel room to come down to find parent : member of staff at any time .

If you feel the need to add I'm not being judgemental to a post chances are you are.

I wouldn't have done it (would rather have had the kids at the reception with me or if no kids allowed and if I had no childcare, would have just taken them home) but assuming the 12 year old was sensible and the fact there were two checks done within the hour I wouldn't judge the parents for their decision.

@ContadoraExplorer i believe the children found the music too loud (the 6yo and one of the 10yo’s).

😂😂

Then that’s the parents issue to be concerned about. Not yours. Christ.

Would you rather they were forced to stay in a room with loud music playing?

Sounds fine to me