Sorry, it's a covid one

[backonceagainisee]

Dd has tested positive tonight. Has a cough, headache, and a bit achy. Cough started yesterday, and says her throat was also sore on Saturday.

The issue with all this is, she turns 18 on Friday. We have a family get together planned for that night, and then she's having a party on the Saturday. Well, those were the plans.

I know that according to guidance, if she's okay after day 5, then technically she can be around others.

I just don't know how I feel about this. I'm thinking if she had a negative test by Friday, then okay. But what if she doesn't? Even if she's feeling fine by then?

I feel so bad for her, and don't know whether I'm overreacting to cancel all plans, or if its completely irresponsible to think things could be okay by the weekend.

Just wondering what others thoughts are I guess.

I wouldn't risk it tbh.

I wouldn’t risk it, I’d probably cancel now and rearrange celebrations for in the new year.

However, some people are carrying on as normal. My SIL had a recent birthday, she was positive but felt fine. She was upfront with all attendees about her covid status and (surprisingly!) to me, all attended.

For the family do, what do the family think? If some are vulnerable/elderly that might be one to reschedule.

For Saturday she'll likely be fine, esp if she's had it before but you may just have to see how it goes.

Have the party, you only turn 18 once! Don't let a cold ruin that memory

If after 5 days I'd gp ahead but make sure EVERYONE knew and they could choose if they wanted to come or not.

As if they haven't given up enough of their rites of passage, these teens. I feel for you and for her.

We had something similar in the summer - Boardmasters tickets for that weekend and a fever / cold which we barely dared test for but bravely she did and it was "just" a cold, so off she went. Many / most wouldn't have tested.

What kind of party is it? Hall / DJ / family coming from far away? Or just a gang of mates in your kitchen (half of whom probably also have it). I think I'd have a quiet night on the actual bday and skip seeing anny older relatives, in the hope of being better for Saturday.

It all depends how she feels. If she feels ok to go ahead then it's fine. I didn't think people were still testing tbh.

No elderly relatives or CEV (as far as I'm aware) at either night. But a few who work with CEV.

The party is a proper party, in a hall, with approximately 70 guests.

I had it recently and tested, so think that's why she has. I know others aren't, and part of me wishes we hadn't bothered, but I also think I'd be panicking about it all just now anyway, given the clear symptoms.

If you hold it. Tell everyone beforehand. I wouldn't go as if I get it I still have to have ten days off work

I would go ahead but let people know so that they can make their own decision whether to attend. Also, think about increasing ventilation and DD maintaining distance. When DH and I both had it we didn't test negative until day 10. We were told that was the norm for Omicron.

She may be negative by Saturday but you have to make sure everyone knows so they can choose (although if I went inside right now I’d assume someone in the room was positive anyway).

People risk not being able to do Christmas if it moves through their family so may choose against if they were planning on spending Christmas with elderly relatives.

You just don’t know who is vulnerable.

My birthday is 10th Dec and it sucks because I’m often ill lol because it’s peak cold/flu season etc.

2018 Hand Foot and Mouth
2019 Tummy bug and pregnant 🙈
2020 Lockdown couldn’t possibly be ill - spent evening in private hospital with LO 3 who had a ladybird in his ear 😮🤷🏼‍♀️Wtf?
2021 was fine
2022 I may have covid lolz 😂 this is just the last few years. Tell her I sympathise xx

Carry on as normal. Her symptoms started over a week ago from the perspective of next Saturday. You aren’t even “obliged” to tell anyone DD’s private medical information by that point.

I know if it was a case of returning to work/college on the Friday, then I'd be telling her to do that if she felt okay, and likely nobody else would bat an eye, despite her working in a jam packed bar/restaurant. But it's the whole party aspect. She's telling me now that she feels fine 

I feel for you @Youthinkyoureuniqueyourejustastatistic
16th birthday was a covid one too! She was unwell on her first birthday too! Should have seen it all coming.

Carry on as normal

This is why cases and hospitalisations are currently on the rise. 🙄

Today is day 0 so Saturday is day 5.
How popular would your family be if you went ahead and attendees had Christmas plans ruined because they were ill?
The people who work with CEV people definitely shouldn’t risk it knowing she has covid.

I think a lot of people would choose not to come as it would spoil their Christmas plans if they caught it. For that reason I could cancel it now and reschedule it or it could end up just being a small gathering

She's had a sore throat since Saturday, and the guidance is count from day after test, or day after symptoms onset - whichever is first. So I'd say we're day 2.

I was positive for 10 days,
felt totally lousy days 4-8

I would tell people as I imagine quite a few will choose not to come. I was poorly for a few weeks when I had it, and would be angry, as well as not not attending any other events organised by that person, if someone didn't tell me they were positive if I attended their party. It would also ruin our Christmas as couldn't then see CEV parent if we were still poorly (which going by my experience last time, is very possible).

This is interesting. I’ve been positive since last Thursday but think I caught it earlier last week.

Currently on 5th day and the headache and aches are going. But my god is it different from other viruses!

I was feeling awful for 7 days and exhausted for 5 more. She might not feel up to it.

It's a real shame, but with 70 people attending that's a hell of a lot of people potentially affected. I would make a decision now - either you go ahead but you tell everyone the situation, or you postpone until the new year. Realistically a lot of those people might have had it recently anyway and feel it's worth the risk.

Personally I would avoid at the moment because I'm madly busy with work, but if it were a different time of year I'd be fine with the risk.

If shes testing negative on friday I would go ahead. But, I would inform everyone before then so they can assess the risk for themselves. If any of them work or live with cev people they will know the risk that covid poses to those people.