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Depressed about lack of Christmas decorations

47 replies

Psycena · 05/12/2022 15:55

I’m an autistic girl of 21 years and over the last two days I have felt incredibly low about the fact that our Christmas decorations are still not up. I love Christmas and my parents were going to put the decorations up this weekend but they were too busy. They haven’t put them up today either so I don’t know when they will be up. They won’t let me go in the loft and help put them up.

I know this is a pathetic thing to have low mood over but it’s what I’m feeling. It’s so grey cold and gloomy and it feels as though it might as well be January with the lack of festive lights.

Tell me I’m being pathetic or unreasonable or not. I haven’t told anyone I’m feeling low about it. How should I get over it??

OP posts:
DrMarciaFieldstone · 05/12/2022 15:56

Put some up yourself?

FettleOfKish · 05/12/2022 15:57

Offer to put them all up yourself and save them the job?

Original poster
Psycena · 05/12/2022 15:57

@DrMarciaFieldstone Won’t let me in the loft because it’s too crowded up there.

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upfucked · 05/12/2022 15:57

At 21 your a women. Go and buy some fairy lights and and a mini tree and put them up in your bedroom.

Squashpocket · 05/12/2022 15:59

Buy your own and decorate your room a bit. Or be patient and I'm sure they'll get them down from the loft soon.

Boulshired · 05/12/2022 16:00

Your parents know your autistic so if they are generally supportive then you need to try and use your words. Your not pathetic or unreasonable. Can a compromise me bade that they get them from the loft and you do the rest.

Caspianberg · 05/12/2022 16:00

Go and buy your own?

Hiphopopotamus · 05/12/2022 16:01

You’re 21 - either put them up yourself or go and get some to decorate your room

Squiblet · 05/12/2022 16:01

It's only the 5th ... we won't be putting ours up for at least another 10 days ... so hang in there!

Daisybuttercup12345 · 05/12/2022 16:01

You are 21 and a woman, not a girl. Go and buy some and decorate your room.

Swissnotswiss · 05/12/2022 16:03

It's still early. Ask them to get them down this weekend maybe?

MissyB1 · 05/12/2022 16:05

When you live in your own place you can call the shots about when the decorations go up. Meantime your parents get to make that decision about their house.
Im sure they won’t mind you buying decorations for your room though.

Original poster
Psycena · 05/12/2022 16:15

OK I’m going to go to home bargains and look for room decorations

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SleeplessInEngland · 05/12/2022 16:17

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Spanielsarepainless · 05/12/2022 16:20

I love Christmas too, but our decorations won't be going up for another ten days. Your parents call the shots in their house.

luxxlisbon · 05/12/2022 16:20

It’s still early, not everyone likes decorations to go up at the beginning of December.

You’re 21 years old, I don’t understand why you can’t go into the loft or buy a set of fairy lights for your room if you want something festive.

CousinKrispy · 05/12/2022 16:21

Room decorations is a lovely idea! Focus on that until your parents are ready to do the rest of the house.

It does seem especially grey and depressing this year so I've just put my decorations up.

Needmorelego · 05/12/2022 16:21

@SleeplessInEngland why do you think that. It is (seemingly small) issues like this that many autistic people struggle with. If the decorations are normally put up the first weekend in December then it can be unsettling to not have them done.
(Parent of an autistic child here)

Want2beme · 05/12/2022 16:25

Some people do have set views about when christmas decorations should go up. Have your parents said when yours will go up? I'd definitely do as suggested and get some of your own for your room. Some lovely twinkly lights will be great. I do love a few twinkly lightsGrin

Divebar2021 · 05/12/2022 16:26

There’s lots of DIY decorations you could make if you look on Pinterest. Have you got somewhere you could source a couple of bunches of foliage or a fallen small branch. The branch you could spray white and put in a vase to hang (very cheap) decorations from. Foliage can be bunched and hung by a ribbon - I always include bay and rosemary from the garden. Popcorn can be strung to make garlands. A couple of sets of white fairy lights. Ta Dah! Lots of very cheap Scandi ideas abound if you look for them.

2bazookas · 05/12/2022 16:47

Charity shops are stuffed with cheap xmas decorations atm. Buy some and put them up.

JeniferAllisonPhillipaSue · 05/12/2022 16:56

My dd made some beautiful snowflakes one year with a4 paper and a stapler. The instructions are on the internet if you fancy doing something like that.
Fairy lights always make a room look cosy and cheerful.

Fairislefandango · 05/12/2022 16:57

YABU. I love Christmas but we never put our decorations up until around the 15th December. I don't think dragging Christmas out for weeks improves it tbh!

SkylightSkylight · 05/12/2022 16:59

Daisybuttercup12345 · 05/12/2022 16:01

You are 21 and a woman, not a girl. Go and buy some and decorate your room.

@Daisybuttercup12345

mind your own! 'Daisy' can call herself 'a girl' if she wants to.

@Psycena would you be able to go & buy yourself a mini tree & some lights, maybe a box of baubles? Or can you not really do that in your own?

other than that, could you try to explain to your parents how it's making you feel?

ignore any rude posts 🎅🏼

SkylightSkylight · 05/12/2022 17:01

Spanielsarepainless · 05/12/2022 16:20

I love Christmas too, but our decorations won't be going up for another ten days. Your parents call the shots in their house.

Yes, but saying you'll do something & not doing it can be very difficult for most people with autism