Bit of background I split up with my ex around a year ago, thought it was just a relationship breakdown really and these things happen, but after the break up and after he moved out it all came out that he had cheated on me, quite a few times in the last 5-6 years, we were only together for 7. Any way me being stupid decided to try and forgive him and give him another chance and we were having some honest conversations and making some progress, all the while we were still ahem “involved “. He was telling me he wasn’t looking for anyone else, then he had a bit of a breakdown due to work stuff and probably due to the fact he had spent the last half a decade living a double life but hey what do I know.
I still supported him through this and we carried on as we were, FF to a couple of months later where he basically just tells me he has a new girlfriend when he had only slept with me 3 weeks prior to this. Well when I found out about timelines later down the line he had only got in touch with this total random from an acquaintance’s FB page 2 weeks after his apparent mental breakdown, great way to start a new relationship hey 🙄 so he had clearly been seeing us both. She also lives 4 hours away in Wales so he was lying to me about going away for work. And all the time apologising to me for cheating and telling me he is trying to be a better man whilst STILL seeing someone else behind my back.
sorry for the rambling but I think the background info is key because I’ve told her once before that he had cheated on her with me which he did but he told her nothing had happened and she chose to believe him *amazing what a free holiday will do isn’t it.
Thing is he’s cheating on her again, AIBU to tell her again or shall I just leave her to learn on her own as I’ve already tried to warn her before?