To think I should have been invited by sibling?

[Lis1992]

So my sibling and their partner moved in together a while back. They said they didn’t want people over for a while as it’s a small granny flat type place. However, they’ve invited my parents for lunch. But I wasn’t asked. I live with my parents so thought they could have asked me. Not that I’m bothered about actually going for the lunch, its more that I’m feeling hurt I wasn’t considered. AIBU?

PIL live next door to SIL/BIL and nephews. We have not been ever able to visit one without the other trotting round too. Just a handful of times over the years would have been nice.
It's very tiring.

YABU. It's hugely frustrating not to be allowed to have a meal with your partner and parents just because an adult sibling lives at home.

DH has a family member that thinks if his MIL is invited somewhere by her adult kids that invites extend to her, her partner and her child. Unfortunately MIL often seems to think this too so it means DH didn't see his mother on her own for about a year and his sibling who lives further away hasn't seen his mother on his own in a long time. One of my kids never saw his grandmother on his own for nearly 3 years without this other family member and child being there. An invite to someone is just that for them unless the person who specifically invites bring x or y. It's perfectly fine for your sibling to see her parents without you there and actually healthy. It's also annoying that someone can respect another's right to have a relationship with a parent without them being there.

If it's tiny, they probably don't have room.

And you're a grown up. Have you ever invited them to lunch?

Yes, YABU. We have a BIL who has moved back in with PIL and it’s actually really irritating that he/they seem to always automatically assume that any invite for PIL also includes him. He never brings anything, and would never invite us over. He seems to have regressed to being treated like a child since he’s moved back in with PIL.

Do you invite them round?

This isn’t nasty?