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KiraChris · 04/12/2022 09:53

I lost my nan who I loved so so much beginning of the year, my ex of 3.5 years who only recently said how much he was in love with me etc has been sleeping with others, says im unlovable and worthless etc, our relationship had good times but he hurt me alot physically and mentally would make pig noises at me and call me a fat pig and make me lie on the floor an pour water on me, smashed my things, I ripped some of his in retaliation but didn't like that trait so I stopped, strangled kicked punched me, talk to other women, he was stringing me along all summer I told him I knew he wasn't in love with me he now admitted he wasn't and that he's now happy and with someone and I was just a stepping stone and i wish i was as good as the woman hes with to be loved, I have a neighbour who gets stroppy if I don't do favours and asks for so many things I've started saying no I thought she was my friend but barely speaks to me now, I can't visit my dad as his partner likes it just them two but he will spend time with her family and their kids they call him grandad which is nice but I'm not invited to anything, I live alone and have had leaks and kitchen damages, my car is on its way out, I am in debt after my ex, I am in so much pain emotionally and alone and scared of life, I used to love my skincare work but the Dr I worked for very kindly said to me to take a break from work in 2019 as it wasn't good for clients to see my face as it was swollen were my ex punched my jaw, and I stayed with him and he did get better but got a bit bad again so I feel I wasted all that time and havent worked since 2019 totally lost my confidence.

In my heart I love home life, and Christmas etc but this year I'm alone I'm so loyal and legit. And I just feel like my heart is on fire.

Why is everything going wrong? Am I wrong to feel down?

OP posts:
AngelinaSpin · 04/12/2022 09:56

Sending you 💖💖

Notmrsfitz · 04/12/2022 10:05

No it’s not wrong to feel
down especially after all the things you’ve had going on and still have going on.
I think you’ve had a really rough dreadful time and everything you feel is totally justified and really I just want to hug you.

So,let’s look at things with an open mind, your ex is an ex and soon you will develop enough self worth to see he is NOT worthy of you, he is an arse and you are worth so much better - Anything he’s said to you is twisted to either make you want to be with him or to keep your esteem down so you do stay with him, I don’t say this lightly but he has without doubt a cruel streak in him.

Anyway, moving on - you are not a victim of this you realise you are a bit broken and so as you piece yourself together you will be a survivor and I think one of the most important parts of this will be for you to return to work and be in control.

Maybe you could speak to your Dad alone and tell him how you feel and take the relationship in the direction the answer gives.

And I think it would be a positive thing for you to ask your Gp for some counselling to help you sort through all these emotions and deal with them, the death of a loved one is hard to go through without all the extras x

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