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For shouting out the window…

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Barbbarkbark · 04/12/2022 06:14

Well, i know I am but I just lost it…

Neighbours have a small dog. It’s a rescue they got at the start of the year. Every single time it goes in the garden it barks… from the second it comes out to the second it goes in… runs up and down the fence barking at my children or dogs, barks at passers by any time of day or night.

Sometimes they make a feeble attempt to call it in or tell it to be quiet but it ignores them and they just carry on.

We’ve been really patient. They are first time dog owners with a rescue dog so we thought it might take time to train the dog, but they’ve clearly given up and just expect the neighbours to put up with it.

There are dogs all around, I have dogs… none of the others do this.

I had thought about addressing it yesterday but it was fairly quiet so I left it… but when it woke me up at 5.43 this morning I lost it and yelled out the window about the time and a Sunday morning.

It’s just so inconsiderate… they MUST realise… they time this morning was the last straw….

What do I do now? I think they will know it was me… wait and hope it makes a difference? Go and talk to them tomorrow morning? Help!!

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muddlinthroughit · 04/12/2022 06:16

I would go and talk to them
Maybe apologise for shouting but explain why. Sounds like they give the dog free reign of the garden because it's easy for them.

mamabear715 · 04/12/2022 06:17

Well hopefully they'll realise how damn frustrated their neighbours are & DO something about it.
I feel for you. :-(

carefulcalculator · 04/12/2022 06:18

I'd leave it and see if it has an impact. You've done it now, so see how it goes.

The dog sounds really annoying! Too many difficult dogs around these days.

WhatTheHellIsAQuasar · 04/12/2022 06:19

Nope Yanbu. My dog doesn’t really like being out there in the dark so if I let him out on his own he would run around barking. Instead I go out there with a torch so he’s not so scared and if he makes a single peep he comes back in immediately

dandelionthistle · 04/12/2022 06:23

Yanbu, but your tolerance to this point suggests you are someone who likes to get along and they are people with redeeming features, so I would have a proper chat with them, apologise for the shouting but explain. Hopefully they'll have had a wake up call and be mortified!

Allinadayswork80 · 04/12/2022 06:44

I think the onus is on them to knock and apologise to you! You were well within your rights to lose it and shout at them at that time on a Sunday morning, or in fact any morning. They should take their dog out on a lead if that’s how he behaves, it’s totally unacceptable. I hope it’s a wake up call for them to do something about it. Good luck OP x

Sceptre86 · 04/12/2022 06:45

They are ill prepared to take on a dog it seems. I wish there was some kind of course potential owners could go on to address their suitability especially for a rescue dog.

IAmTi · 04/12/2022 06:48

I bet all your neighbours were like HORRRAY! So don't worry about annoying them with your shouting.

Just pop round with a dog toy and say you're sorry you yelled, what's little ones name, and would they mind not letting him out so early.

Problem is with a dog if you don't let them out they poo in the house.

summergone · 04/12/2022 06:55

I would pop round explain that you were so tired you resorted to shouting and digest that when they take the dog out for a wee they put a lead on it , v unlikey to bark then

summergone · 04/12/2022 06:56

Or even suggest ! Please don't ask them to digest their dog

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Barbbarkbark · 04/12/2022 07:54

Thanks everyone, just told DH and he groaned!

Still conflicted about what to do… I’d love to think PP are right and they will apologise but I doubt it sadly.

They have no problem knocking at ours… once to complain about our cat (I was hugely apologetic, asked their advice as cat owners and followed up with them to check problem solved) and another time to complain about the football goal, again we apologised and moved it.
I struggle as there’s no way they don’t know it’s an issue… as I said they make feeble efforts to stop it, they just don’t know what they are doing and have stopped trying…
I’ll have a proper chat with DH when he’s more awake… maybe I’ll send him round!!!

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notnowB · 04/12/2022 08:01

I don't bloody blame you!

mamabear715 · 04/12/2022 11:24

You've done nothing wrong, @Barbbarkbark
I agree with a PP who said all your other neighbours were probably relieved that someone had told the thing to SHUT UP!

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