To feel like he's stopped trying?

[purpleviolet1987]

My ex has been trying to get back with me for months, made loads of promises etc, until I finally gave in.

Now that he 'has me back' & feel like he's stopped trying.

He stayed over last night & stayed on the sofa from 2pm until 1pm the next day, he didn't help with dinner, washing up or anything. Kept barking orders at me to get him a drink, a snack, etc.

He didn't really speak to me while we were out, we had planned to get the Xmas tree then go home and decorate. He rang his mum in the shop and asked her to pick him up when we got back to mine.

He said we both need to try more and so I have been, but surely he should be waiting on me hand and foot? I asked him for a massage and he did it so half heartedly, but expected a fully body from me. I just feel a bit deflated again.

He takes me and our child for granted.

I'm looking forward to him leaving now and I'm fed up with him.

He should be treating you like an equal, for a start. Why on earth is he telling you to do stuff for him?

@SheWoreYellow Because he does it at home with his mum so expects me to, it's small but constant requests, exactly like a young child. He finished his dinner last night and instead of getting up to help clear away he passes me his plate....

Why tell me your going to anything and everything to make our family work and act like this.

Don't stay with him. Don't stay with anyone that "barks orders" at you. You're not a skivvy.

Congratulations, you have a manchild.

Time to kick him out. He won't change.

Get rid.

Well once he's left don't let him back and tell him it's over. He doesn't want a partner but a replacement for his Mum that he also has sex with.

Why did you break up in the first place? Did you really think he would change?

Write down every thing you do for him, what he does (doesn’t) do for you., say for a week.

Either, kick him out and read it next time you think of taking him back.

Or read it out to him, and if he doesn’t change his tune, kick him out.

Hes obviously got a mum, he can’t be greedy and expect you to be his mum/servant as well.

He won't change. He's hasn't been back for long and he's behaving like this - nope, get rid.

Better to be happy on your own than unhappy with a giant man baby who rings his mummy to come for him. 😒

He didn't change. He acted nice until he thought he had you hooked again.

The most annoying part is he will keep asking me what's wrong.

He's just insanely self absorbed, we tried to decorate, I gave him the job of putting up the tree, within 10 minutes he asked me to help, so I ended up doing it all.

He said he hates decorating, I said your child wants to decorate with you so you will fucking decorate.

He's literally a man child, surely he must realise? I said to him I already have a child I don't need another one, you'd think having another adult in the house would help but he crates more work for me, he's more demanding than our child!! And our child is better house trained than him.

Sick to death.