AIBU to spend my savings on myself during maternity leave?

[HolidayHun2020]

So I’ve been on maternity leave for 9 months, in the beginning while I was still getting my full salary I continued to pay my usual contribution to bills/mortgage (50% - £800pm) when I went down to statutory (& kit days) I said to my husband I’m happy to take 25% (£400 pm out of savings/stat pay) and would he mind paying the other £400 for me to which he agreed. Out of what I get paid (around £900) everything else goes on baby classes, baby clothes, petrol, anything I do during the week with the baby and my 25% of bills. As a treat I bought myself a few things in Black Friday and spent around £200 out of my savings.

My husband had a MASSIVE go at me and said I was being out of order to go in to my savings for nice things for myself when I didn’t want to use that money for bills and he’s having to pay it for me. I naturally spend more on the baby day to day and as it was a JOINT decision to have a child I feel like he should contribute while I’m on mat leave rather then me just burning through my savings to live. Also to note we are making some improvements to the house and going 50/50 - my half always comes out of my savings. He’s also paid the odd bill, but then I paid the nursery deposit etc.

AIBU to think the set up we have is fine and I shouldn’t be paying my entire half of bills/mortgage out of savings?

Is he paying anything for baby?

Our son gets stuff from both of us not just my money.

@bcdefghijklmnopqrstuvwxyza If I ask for it, he will no problem. But I just naturally I cover it! I.E if I’m out and the baby needs vests etc

“But I just naturally cover it”

just stop doing that, if you want to split finances everything for the baby comes out of a joint account.

So you are providing your half of the childcare AND his half of the childcare? And you pay for anything the baby needs? And he has to pay an extra £400 a month for this?

Nursery fees are going to be quite the shock to him, aren't they...?

AIBU to think the set up we have is fine

I can never understand this. You commit to having a child together but can’t share finances? My opinion is that all income to the household goes into one account. All outgoings go out of that account - every penny. Then if you decide to - have a set amount of personal spending money each from what is left.

Literally no decent man let’s their wife pay living expense from SAVINGS while on maternity leave to raise their joint child.

Find out what childcare is for a baby your age and bill him for it. Tell him to fuck off