Giving up a pet - please help

[Sarahjaned]

Hi all, I'm looking for some advice. Please be delicate with me as I'm really torn up about this.
I have a cat, he's been with me for almost 13 years. I absolutely love him to bits.
A year ago a moved in with my partner, who has always been mildly allergic to cats but we've managed to get by pretty well by keeping on top of cleaning etc.
Recently though his allergies have got much worse and it's impacting him badly on a daily basis. He constantly sneezes and struggles with breathing and ends up with rhinitis.
I've tried many different things to help (strong antihistamines, pet dander treatments, air purifiers) but nothing is having enough of an impact.
He's really patient and has never once asked me to give the cat up.
Very recently we had a baby and I'm finding it's become much more of a struggle to keep on top of all the cleaning etc that we need to do to try to keep my partners allergies at bay. To the point where I'm exhausted, he can hardly breathe, and it's starting to impact our relationship.
I don't know what to do. The poor cat can never spend time cuddled in with us and I'm always aware of the negative impact he's having.
I'm considering giving him up for his sake as well as ours.

He's the best, most loving, chilled out little creature and would make someone very happy but it devastates me to even think about parting with him.

Any suggestions, advice or comments welcome. ♥️

If your dh has exhausted all options with his gp and can’t be bothered to help you clean so that he’s less impacted what option do you have?

OP literally says 'we' in relation to cleaning. OP's relationship sounds absolutely fine, but her poor DP can't breathe, and they've had a baby now too.

OP, sad as it is, you do have to try and rehome the cat. Cat sounds lovely and easy so hopefully you won't find it too hard to find someone. Best wishes and best of luck.

The cat was there first and appears to have become inconvenient as your circumstances have changed.

It's not exactly easy to rehome elderly cats who have reached the stage where their medical needs will be likely to be become a financial burden for a new owner

I have heard this sad story so many times whenI worked in a cats shelter.
Not saying you are the same OP, but we got so many cats in.
First comes the partner then a baby, so the cat has to go. I am probably biased but I saw it so often.

It doesn't sound like you have much choice really