First date

[Strawberryshortcake28]

I have been chatting to a man online for a few months we have arranged to meet for drinks in town tomorrow for a first date

I live in the city he lives just outside
He sent me a text today saying would it be possible if he could come to my house for predrinks and leave his car at mine then we would go for drinks and he would stay on my sofa and drove home the next day as Saturday night is difficult to get a taxi and it would cost him 30 pound each way

I said I'm not comfortable with that as it is our first meet and I'm a young woman living by myself I have to be careful

He then told me he was disappointed and that he didn't see what the big deal was and we would rearrange for another time

Aibu
When we arranged the date he never mentioned this also it is a bit unattractive that he won't pay the taxi fair
Now the plans have been cancelled after mr arranging a baby sitter/ getting treatments all week to look nice for him

What a cheeky bastard!! Block him! Shame you wasted months getting to know him though

Wow! What a nerve! Totally wanted you both never to set foot out of the door and the drinking ensures he beds down with you for the night.
Does he have a Gold cock and the face/body of Chris Hemsworth?
Good luck to him 😂

How terrible. What is wrong with men these days.

Thank your lucky stars he showed his true colours before you met him.

You've dodged a bullet.

YANBU at all.

You were quite right to follow your instincts on this one. I wouldn't arrange to meet him again, you've dodged a bullet there

No way. Nope.

Absolutely huge no, you did 1000% the right thing. Even if he would have slept on sofa as planned and tried nothing on there’s no way I’d let someone I didn’t know into my house on date 1.

Wow you dodged a massive red flag here! Can you make plans with a friend or even make another date quickly and still use your babysitter?

Huge red flags there
You're arranging a babysitter so have a child/childtren in the house and someone who is essentially a stranger wants to stay overnight ?!
I'd block him tbh

No way. You’ve never even met!

I let a guy stay after we’d met up a few times and he wanted to go for a few drinks, leave his car at mine and crash on the settee. He got so drunk I couldn’t wake him up the next morning. I did eventually get rid of him and never saw him again but he got very nasty towards me on Facebook and I had to block him.

He wants a fuck. No thanks.

Seriously unbelievable! No genuine, decent man would ever ask this. Then suggesting you are being uptight.

Avoid. Like the feckin' plague!!

Jeeeesus.

RUN AWAY!!!!!

This was very much him attempting to overstep your boundaries. As a first impression it's not good at all.

No man you barely know should be staying overnight in a house with your children.

Putting aside the risk to the children, even if they are staying overnight somewhere, having a man you have never met in your house with you alone is a terrible idea.

Always meet in a public place for the first time. Do not share your address with someone you have never met. Make sure you can make your own way home - know the bus route, cab numbers, have cash to pay etc. Never be reliant on someone you haven't met to get you home.

Make the most of having a babysitter and go out with a friend?

You would be a fool to speak to him again.
Not cos he was angling for a first date fuck - fair enough 🤷🏻‍♀️
But because he tried to guilt you into it, or at least punish you, with the “disappointment” crap.

And stop wasting your money on “treatments” to look nice “for men”. Spend your money on yourself, and remind yourself that you look just fine without spending money anyway.

Wow! Block him immediately 🚩🚩🚩🚩