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"You can't have it for free",aibu?

360 replies

imacccu · 02/12/2022 15:00

So I'm at Manchester for the Christmas markets.
Spent £20 on a Greek sharing box to eat for lunch.
I ask for two forks and she tells me they've ran out and to get them from the Brazilian stand opposite.
So off I go and say "can I have two of the plastic forks please as the Greek stand have ran out"

She says "no I'm not allowed as you didn't buy food here,you can't expect them for free"
I said okay il buy a drink
She said no only food
The cheapest thing was £10
So I sad no
Aibu to think she could of gave me a plastic fork
Is this what the worlds came too?
She had a huge and I mean huge tub of cutlery

So we had to eat with our hands which was near impossible as it was coated in sauces etc

OP posts:
NumberTheory · 02/12/2022 16:06

YABU and unfair to the Brazilian place.

Sounds like the Greek stall (and maybe others) have been free loading off the Brazilian stall for a while if they have had to make a policy against it.

it’s not just the cost of the forks. The Brazilian stall will have planned for the number of meals they expect to sell. To then have demand for their forks double because the Greek stall are sending all their customers to get them might well mean the Brazilian stall are unable to provide their own customers with forks later in the day.

VanGoghsDog · 02/12/2022 16:08

poefaced · 02/12/2022 16:01

Bit harsh, 853 probably spent a fiver with them on the coffee and water. The cup would have cost them 3p.

She didn't say anything about having spent money with them. But even so, profit margins are very tight on food retail, and things like paper cups (all paper, wood, wood pulp items in fact) have increased in cost dramatically. I don't think they were in the wrong. If you have kids, bring a cup for them. That's pretty usual.

namechange085 · 02/12/2022 16:09

Blanketpolicy · 02/12/2022 15:32

The greek stall were being CF sending you to another trader for forks to eat their food. It is likely you were not the first to ask and after a few the other stall were pissed off giving their forks away.

The greek stall should have asked other stall if they could purchase some from them. Y(and the greek stall)ABVU

Agree with this. You have misdirected your annoyance.

Ineedsleepandcoffee · 02/12/2022 16:10

KettrickenSmiled · 02/12/2022 15:52

What is just two girls?
Who are these girls, & where do they feature in OP's lament?

Quite clearly an autocorrect error.

VanGoghsDog · 02/12/2022 16:10

poefaced · 02/12/2022 16:01

She bought a coffee and water with them though. A cup is nothing.

She didn't say she bought it with them, same as the OP didn't buy her food at the Brazilian place.

But she did say there seemed to be a button on the till and they knew the price so was probably something that had happened a lot. So........you can understand why they charge!

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 02/12/2022 16:12

Greek place being U

Bookworm20 · 02/12/2022 16:14

YANBU

Greek place should have warned you there were no forks left. And at the very least provided extra napkins.

Brazilian place were ridiculously petty for not giving you 2 plastic forks when you said you'd purchase a drink. And yes they are a business, but at £10 a plate or £3 a drink I'm pretty sure they were not going to be losing money giving out a few plastic forks.

Rubbish service from both.

poefaced · 02/12/2022 16:16

VanGoghsDog · 02/12/2022 16:08

She didn't say anything about having spent money with them. But even so, profit margins are very tight on food retail, and things like paper cups (all paper, wood, wood pulp items in fact) have increased in cost dramatically. I don't think they were in the wrong. If you have kids, bring a cup for them. That's pretty usual.

She did, she said ‘I had got cup coffee & bottle water.’

If profit margins are tight, they should have charged her the cost, like 10p. £1 is a huge margin for them.

PollyAmour · 02/12/2022 16:28

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 02/12/2022 15:42

Because, of course, all food markets are in walking distance to a Morrisons Hmm

The Manchester Christmas Markets, which is where the OP was, does have a Morrisons within walking distance though.

Cheesuswithallama · 02/12/2022 16:32

You are having issue with wrong place. The greek place obviously didn't have an agreement.

It's always "BuT It'S JuSt OnE ThIng". Yeah, but no one is the only one wanting the "just one thing".

If hundred people comes to your front garden and each picks up a daisy, how will that look? It's just one little flower afterall

rwalker · 02/12/2022 16:33

10HailMarys · 02/12/2022 15:21

So if you bought a burger from Burger King, would you take it into McDonald's and expect them to provide the ketchup because Burger King had run out?

The cost of giving you a plastic fork is tiny, yes - but I expect you were not the only person who had asked that day. My guess is that the Greek stall runs out of cutlery all the time and the Brazilian stall are now heartily sick of supplying cutlery on their behalf, the cost of which mounts up.

Fine to be annoyed with the Greek stall for not having any cutlery, but not fine to be annoyed with the Brazilian stall for not wanting to provide cutlery for people to eat food from somewhere else.

This

Cheesuswithallama · 02/12/2022 16:33

I honestly think we are having some heavy numbers of trolling lately because the threads are just ridiculous. Obviously ridiculous

DrMarciaFieldstone · 02/12/2022 16:34

Because the Greek stall didn’t bother saved costs on not buying enough cutlery, and you might have been the 340th person they had sent over to use theirs.

Not their issue to sort, why should they have to give it away for free because a rival didn’t want to spend their money?

SillySausage81 · 02/12/2022 16:37

It's really weird how a lot of people in this thread don't seem to realise there's a whole swathe of middle ground between giving you a fork for free and making you buy a £10 meal just for the fork.

Yes, it would have been irritating for them if you were the 20th person who'd asked for a fork, but they could have charged you 50p or even £1...

thelobsterquadrille · 02/12/2022 16:38

poefaced · 02/12/2022 16:01

She bought a coffee and water with them though. A cup is nothing.

So how many cups should they be expected to give away for free?

thelobsterquadrille · 02/12/2022 16:40

Okay, but if they give away/sell all their cutlery to anyone who asks, how are they supposed to give it their customers when they purchase food?!

rwalker · 02/12/2022 16:43

The other thing is how did OP ask .the fact she thought she should be entitled to it

more than likely pissed the stall holder off so chances are that’s why they wouldn’t even sell it to them

poefaced · 02/12/2022 16:44

thelobsterquadrille · 02/12/2022 16:38

So how many cups should they be expected to give away for free?

Well OP had two kids with her and bought 2 drinks from them. A third cup for free or 10p would have been the right thing to do.

ReedRite · 02/12/2022 16:46

RishisProudMum · 02/12/2022 15:03

I don’t get this, sorry. They’re a business. Why would she give you free cutlery?

Because being so tight you won't give someone the steam off your piss makes you an arsehole?

How much is a plastic knife and fork to a caterer who buys them in bulk? 10p?

Mean.

amonsteronthehill · 02/12/2022 16:47

I would have returned the Greek sharing box immediately and asked for a refund. They're taking the piss.

ReedRite · 02/12/2022 16:49

KettrickenSmiled · 02/12/2022 15:38

Human decency
Helping out a neighbouring business
Public relations

But oh no! 4 pence worth of plastic forks are WAY too important for those small considerations!

Exactly!

So many mean-spirited people on this thread.

poefaced · 02/12/2022 16:50

ReedRite · 02/12/2022 16:46

Because being so tight you won't give someone the steam off your piss makes you an arsehole?

How much is a plastic knife and fork to a caterer who buys them in bulk? 10p?

Mean.

But if a 100 ppl a day ask, that’s £10 down the drain.

I think it’s a point of principle for the Brazilian stall, as they just have realised a £3 drink would more than cover the cutlery cost too.

RedTable · 02/12/2022 16:54

YABU.
if you needed it I would have offered her 50p for the fork. But she might just be an employee and would get sacked if she’s given away 50forks by the end of the day. People are struggling an pennies really do fucking count.

ReedRite · 02/12/2022 16:55

poefaced · 02/12/2022 16:50

But if a 100 ppl a day ask, that’s £10 down the drain.

I think it’s a point of principle for the Brazilian stall, as they just have realised a £3 drink would more than cover the cutlery cost too.

Why would it be 100 people a day? You're just imagining details we haven't been given.

And if it's the money, because 100 people a day actually do ask, then why not let OP buy the overpriced drink and throw in the cutlery?

Pure joyless meanness.

Cheesuswithallama · 02/12/2022 16:56

ReedRite · 02/12/2022 16:46

Because being so tight you won't give someone the steam off your piss makes you an arsehole?

How much is a plastic knife and fork to a caterer who buys them in bulk? 10p?

Mean.

But it's NEVER just one person. Go and give 5ps to 100 randoms.

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