Are you single by choice, single long-term, or happily single?

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I'm not sure if it's once you get to a certain age and hence level of experience. I've had three serious relationships, as in living together.

After the last one I feel so done with it. I have a child and the home being just ours is blissful. I also have animals.

Only tidying up after myself and my babies is the best feeling. I can't honestly see what a man could bring other than money.

What really is so great about relationships, and also isn't being single fantastic?

I enjoy dates, and can go on as many as I like!

Good points - potential for someone to share the bills, do some chores, make tea.

Bad points - all ideas of being with someone to share the burdens of life turns out to be more of a burden than being alone.

Rather be single than chance it.

I am widowed. I loved my husband and he loved me. I wish he hadn't died, however I am fine on my own, always liked my own company.

Interesting.
I have had a few longer relationships that didn't work out because we did not want the same things.
For the past nearly 19 years I have been a widow (he committed suicide). I do have a "boyfriend" of 16 years, but due to our professional commitments we do not live together or see one another that often.
I think we would both be happy if we could arrange our lives to be able to live together, but I cannot see that happening soon.
I love living in my house (and it is my house as my late husband had no input, although he insisted I bought it) because I can do whatever I want. I am not sure that I would want anyone there permanently, so would need to move if toyboy and I wanted to live together.

Oh a little bit of all of those….
Ive had three real long term relationships.
1 - from 23 to 27. I lived overseas at the time, and when I came back, we tried to keep it going, but it just wasn’t practical. Visas, long flights, lots of expense. I still think of him fondly.
2 - from 29 to 35. A friend who became more. We bought a flat together, and got engaged. It all went a bit wrong when my career rapidly improved, and his didn’t. He was always jealous of my achievements, rather than supportive. Messy breakup.
3 - from 36 to 44. Split up about a year ago. This one was the one I thought was for keeps. We tried and tried to have a baby, but it was ultimately unsuccessful. I think all of the pressure of that just wore us both down. Im still really sad about it, but deffo not ready to meet someone else.

I’m a bit lonely sometimes, but I have lovely friends, and a supportive family. I would eventually like to meet someone else, but also think I haven’t completely come to terms with the fact I won’t have children now. All so tied up together…