It's a friend one AIBU?

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Been friends for 4 years, met on the school run.

I've done a lot for this friend over the years, given her money, paid for nappies for her dc when she's asked me to pick them up from the shops and she never paid me back, given her all sorts to help her and she's never returned the favour, I even leant her something then a week later she sold and kept the money for claiming she didn't know it was mine! She's stopped talking to me before for months and then randomly decided to start talking to me blaming me for it saying she wasn't sure if I wanted anything to do with her even though I messaged her twice asking if she wanted to meet up! Done birthday drinks at mine for her and baked her a cake on my birthday she didn't even say so much as a happy birthday yet messaged me throughout the day with her drama.

Anyway I tried to keep the peace as our dc are friends and she works at dc school so thought it'd be awkward if I told her truthfully how I felt that I felt let down and hurt by her using me.

Today I've woken up to a message asking why I've made a new Facebook account and not added her and then she's deleted me off another platform.
I don't use my personal Facebook it's been deactivated purely for the drama it brings and my second Facebook account is purely for entering competitions I have nobody I know on it, the only way you can tell it's me is the fact I have my real name on the account as I'm entering competitions. 🙉

Now this has really pissed me off, not only do I feel like she's stalking me a bit online but why delete me after everything I've done for her! AIBU to completely ignore her from now on even when I see her out and about? It was only yesterday morning I saw her and stopped and spoke to her and she was fine with me.

I have autism as well so I'm not great at friendships/socialising.

Time to say "you know what?" Then list all the shitty things she's done over the years and tell her never to speak to you ever again. Then enjoy the freedom.

Honestly OP ywbu to continue talking to her. How dare she? The friendship has only run four years and already there have been repeated incidents that have gone on for months. Horrible woman. You deserve better.

Actually, I was cringing at all the things you were doing for her because she was so clearly using you. I would just have nothing to do with her anymore.

She sounds like a nightmare, use this as an opportunity to walk away

I know I'm cringing too, I was a real push over to begin with but the past 6 months I've refused to do anything more for her apart from a polite hello or a nice comment on photos. I feel very used, ironically she's just got a new boyfriend after messaging me all day and night how lonely she was being single and now she wants nothing to do with me! A bit like the first time when she stopped talking to me she found a new friend but they dropped her and she came running back.

I'm such an idiot. I don't have many friends so maybe it's my fault for clinging on.

Tell her to fuck off, she's not a friend

She sounds like drama. Just ignore her from now on. She’s used you far too many times.

Better no friends and than shitty, selfish ones.

You sound lovely, OP, you deserve good friends.

This has been a strong lesson in what is not ok from 'a friend'. I also used to think I needed to be friends with my children's friend's parents, but no more. Let this one go, don't let her come crawling back, and spend some time considering why you have let her take up so much of your time with her rubbish. She has used you. Over and over. It is so hard especially for us women as we believe we are being great friends if we are providing constant emotional support, but sometimes all we are doing is propping up someone else's fragile ego until they find someone else who will do it instead. Take care, and be kind to yourself. Don't let arseholes into your life.