It's bedtime and we bathed our infant together (eldest DC likes to help). At the end of bedtime routine, the baby was tired and got teary due to mild illness and being overtired.
I went upstairs and bf the baby and asked DH for a drink. I also asked for the formula supplement bottle (due to slow weight gain when baby was smaller) which is due certain time.
DH comes in with my drink and starts asking about cooking equipment for our dinner (it's done and he wants to do something unnecessary to it). I tell him I don't really care about dinner but need the bottle, he disappears for 10/15 minutes and baby is now frantic again, it's bottle time and there is no bottle. I'd already left it to cool so 2 minutes in cold water would have been fine. DH says "I needed a lid" and "I didn't know you needed it now, I don't know when the baby has it, it's at different times" (for example, baby might be hungry earlier, baby might be sleeping and I won't wake the baby unless it's been too long since the last feed). DH then gives a few more reasons why he thinks it took longer. This isn't the issue but I point out that he can put a bottle on before needed so he doesn't need to know whether I needed it there and then, just that he could put one on when I ask. The reason why I tend not to do this the day before/earlier is I pump whenever I can too as I'm trying to get the baby off of formula top ups and some days I don't need the formula.
Anyway, I get the baby fed and off to sleep and DH has now got eldest ready for bed and left eldest to go to sleep. DH checks in on eldest a few times in the beginning but he's laying on the landing between our bedroom and eldest's and shouting things out to eldest in response to a request. He wakes the baby up by shouting and I tell him that he can get the baby to sleep now.
I've come downstairs and left him to get on with it.
AIBU?