SS report

[TwinMama88]

I got a phone call today from SS saying somebody has reported me.

I was so shocked that I only heard some of what she was saying. I'm in total disbelief and extremely upset about it.

Apparently;
*my children cry a lot (they are twin toddlers)
*it sounds like I lock them in a room and they are banging doors to escape
*I've been heard shouting at them telling them off
*a lot of banging is heard

I am just so shocked. What toddlers don't cry? They squabble and cry, isn't that a normal part of development that at their age they don't have impulse control and issues with sharing toys.
I lock them in a room and they try to escape....what on earth sort of allegation is this? I absolutely do not lock my children anywhere.
Am I never allowed to tell them off if they do something particularly bad or dangerous?

The woman said she will be carrying out some checks and will get back to me, but what checks?
My anxiety is through the roof and I can't even explain just how upset I've been over this today.
I don't even know what's going to happen now, or how she even got my number?

Don't worry. Let them do whatever checks they want to do and they will see the children are fine. Perhaps a concerned busybody neighbour ???

There are two possible explanations here.

1. Someone is batshit crazy and has reported you for no reason
2. Your understanding of normal toddler behaviour and normal parental discipline is misaligned with the general understanding

If option 1, it will be discounted. If option 2, you'll be offered support and help to deal with your current situation. Either way, there's nothing to fear.

If they were that concerned OP they would be able to turn up un-announced.
Calm down - either someone being vindictive or a close neighbour hearing toddlers play/cry/tantrum and being quick to rush to judgement

Sounds like a neighbour pissed off with the noise

Sounds like it's a neighbour if they're talking about bangs in house etc.
What are the neighbours like?

Exactly. Most likely. Just don't like people making any noise

Thank you.
I've honestly been really shocked and felt numb all day by this. I've had all sorts of worrying scenarios in my head.

I have 2 possible thoughts...my children's other parent who is currently not in their life but a more recent thing, or a neighbour who has had a moan at me a few months ago as they didn't appreciate me doing housework at 2pm. (They were in bed apparently).

I don't believe my children's behaviour is extreme, they have their moments of squabbling over a toy, or a tantrum if I say no to something they want, but this is normal for toddlers to have little fights amongst themselves and throw a tantrum. I don't feel their noise is constant or excessive at all, they're at nursery several times during the week.

I just don't understand why somebody would say these things and try to paint me as some sort of bad abusive parent. I love my children and do everything I can for them.

@TwinMama88 I have had my next door neighbour make 8 malicious reports to SS and 8 malicious calls to 999 police (trying to imply abuse/neglect) amongst many other things.
My child is older than yours, I guess that's almost an advantage in this though.
So unfortunately I've had experience of this and can we believe people would do this.
Next door had council put in noise recording device to record the noise we were making and it came back normal household noise.
I would not be surprised if they make another malicious report still as they haven't given up yet!

Oh gosh that's terrible.
Surely they should get into trouble for making so many allegations as that's harassment?

I hope I don't have to endure the same thing, I'm feeling really out of sorts and I can't imagine I'm going to sleep at all tonight now.

@TwinMama88 the police did eventually warn them about making any more 999 calls which is why they stopped in the end. But it's easier to carry on making the reports to SS. I hope one day they will get in trouble for it!
They were making trouble for us in many other ways as well as these reports so it's different yours. I don't yours will carry on like this but just wanted to let you know you're not the only one and people can do it maliciously but I understand why you're worried.

My money's on the neighbour.

I just don't understand if it is, why they couldn't just be an adult and knock on my door and have a chat if there's any issue, why be nasty and potentially risk my children being taken or something.
The stress and upset this has already caused me and I only got the phone call this morning.
I had just had the health visitor here too and she was very happy with the children's progress and had lovely things to say, so surely if there was any problem she'd have picked up on it.

I understand. It's the lowest of the low

This happened to me and I was distraught. Basically they spoke to the head at my girls school who reacted in utter disbelief apparently and didn’t understand who or why we would be reported, then they were apparently going to contact babies health visitor but it turns out they never did. Ss never even phoned me back I phoned them 2 days later to find out what was happening as I was a complete mess and the admin person basically told me case had been closed with no further action. We know ours was a neighbour who we’ve had problems with since we moved in but we didn’t know that then. This happened 6 years ago and I’ve never heard from them again.
I know how this makes you feel but honestly your reaction is enough for them to know because like you I was a complete mess when they phoned and couldn’t take in what they were saying. People can be vicious!

Thank you.

Are they likely to speak to the health visitor and nursery do you think?
That should clear it up I hope as nobody has ever voiced concerns, in fact the opposite.
I've literally been stressed out all night, not knowing what's going to happen and wondering why.

They're not going to take your children.

They might contact nursery to check they have no concerns.
They might do a home visit to check your home looks OK (ie no dangerous bare electrics, the children have a bed with a mattress, food in the house, suitable toys, not squalid).
They might chat to see how you think you are coping.

SS do not want to take children away. It is expensive and time consuming and only in the child's best interests if the home circumstances are dire and the parents don't want to / can't improve.

Don't worry they will come out check all ok and close the case .

This will be over in a few days, they will speak to the health visitor and the nursery and that will be that. I doubt they will even want to see the children.