To think this is inappropriate for a potential boss?

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I went for an interview last week and was offered the job. Due to unforeseen childcare issues, I had to politely decline.
He then replied saying he was disappointed and have I looked at other childcare options. I didn't reply, and then tonight I've received 3 messages. Asking if I'm free Tuesday and if I want to go out for a meal to chat, another saying sorry if it sounded weird they just need someone to start in January and then another that read "a no would be fine"
He did ask if I was married during the interview (I'm not) which I did think was odd.
Am I thinking too much of myself or is this a bit weird?

I think you've dodged a bullet there. Asking you if you are married is inappropriate, asking you out to a meal is even more so and the whole 'a no would be fine' sounds passive aggressive

At best they are struggling to get an employee because they are a crap employer. At worst he is a letch.

He could well have rung you for a chat about possible ways that you could've worked for him. Asking you for a meal automatically means that he's not wanting a business conversation.

Also if he really wanted you as an employee, but was professional, he could have told you he could hold the position open for you for a week to give you time to try to sort other childcare arrangements. Not asked you out for a meal.

Asking you out for a meal and texting “a no would be fine” all seems unprofessional, and a bit desperate.

Should not have asked your marital status in a job interview.

Seems to be confusing work and personal life.

Now wants to date you.

Agree with others, it is not acceptable to ask your marital status at interview. Tempted to say it's illegal but not entirely sure of my ground. Stay clear.

I had this when I was young and stupid - I had an interview for a job I would have loved, he rang to say I hadn't got it but would like to meet to discuss why. Naively I agreed, and he said that he hadn't given me the job as he was too attracted to me. I ended up having a short lived relationship with the creep, in the hope that I'd get a job eventually. Obviously I didn't, and it took me a while to shake him off. Run like the wind!

Don’t go. Been there.

Thanks everyone.. I won't be going!