Or is my DH lazy

[SandreaDee]

I feel like I do literally everything, make tea, sort the kids, nursery/school bags, clothes etc. I do the washing and ironing. I feel so fed up and feel like I am constantly moaning, it literally takes him 6 years to move (yes obviously that’s not true) and he irritates me so bad. His lack or urgency is painful, he sits on his phone watching constant bloody videos too! Please tell me this isn’t how most men are 😩 we have just had a fight (kids are not here as we both WFH) I’m exhausted.

Sorry, but he’s lazy!

Sounds awful - what does he add?

Go on strike, get on your phone like he does. Then he’ll appreciate what you do!!

He’s more sloth than man. Honestly he sounds unbearable.

My husband cooks all the meals whilst I deal with the toddler, takes washing down once I have washed it and hung it up to dry... sorry but yours is being lazy :(

Are you a SAHM with 9:30-14:30 child free every day whilst he works 6 full shifts a week?

I suspect he is lazy, because there’s a lot of it about. But there isn’t enough to say from your post.

Stop doing his laundry for a start.

Sorry, I just re-read and saw you WFH. Are you both full time?

I work 3 days and he works 5, he has been off for the past week and I have been nothing but irritated.

Sounds like he is lazy. What is the point of him?

Why are so many modern men like this?!!
It’s endemic.

I feel like he purposely wound me up today to give him an excuse to stay in bed even longer, he said I will just do what you expect me to do then! So frustrating I can’t come down from it.

Sorry OP but he sounds lazy and they aren't all like that!

Mine has many faults, as I'm sure I do too but he does all the ironing, lots of the laundry, every Sunday roast and Christmas dinner.

Mine is shit in the mornings and I do all the morning sorting out for school but then he takes them to school.

I do all the mental load of the kids but he ha taken on the house and car stuff (insurances, mots etc).

Maybe come up with a list of everything you think needs to be done to keep things ticking over and ask him to do the same.....combine the lists and then note who does what.....he may find it enlightening.

Do washing and cooking for you and the kids for a few days but leave him to do his own, just say that you don't have time to sort his as well. I'm sure he'll soon make an effort when he's hungry and has no clean pants

YANBU

You need to write a list of everything you do vs everything he does.

As you’re working PT you should be doing more than him but he shouldn’t be doing nothing.

How long have you both wfh?
I couldn’t think of anything worse!

YANBU.

I'm there with you. DP is the same. I shoulder some of the responsibility myself as I've allowed it for nearly a decade but I hate myself for it.

You deserve better. Not every man is like this. It's his choice.

If he doesn't move, he doesn't eat and doesn't get clean clothes.

If you're not prepared to bin him but you want him to step up, you need to make life so unpleasant for him that he eventually realises that pulling his weight is the easier option.

No.
Not all men are like this.
Yours is lazy as F. I'd recommend doing sweet fuck all till he realises and sees that you do everything

@44PumpLane Maybe come up with a list of everything you think needs to be done to keep things ticking over and ask him to do the same.....combine the lists and then note who does what.....he may find it enlightening.

THIS!