To think friend is being insensitive?

[watchingthehobbit]

Friend invited me to join her on a trip to a country I’ve always wanted to go to.

She then changed her mind about me coming, she was visiting family she hadn’t seen in many years and felt it was best to be on her own. I understood but I was annoyed as I felt she should never have asked me to go in the first place. I didn’t lose any money and we didn’t fall out over it.

My issue is that she keeps sending me photos and whilst I know it’s not malicious, I do think it’s pretty insensitive, aibu?

Assuming she's posting on social media, I'd write 'Stop it! You know I wanted to come too! You're making me very jealous'. If she's sending them via WhatsApp, same applies. Add a smiley face emoji or two.

You understand? It doesn't sound very much like you do - you are annoyed she invited you (and didn't follow though).

No I don't think your friend sharing her photo's with you is insensitive. I think she probably thought you'd like to see them if you have always wanted to go, and perhaps you can visit with her in the future. But what would be insensitive would be freeloading by bringing a freiend along to meet family that she hadn't seen in years without them agreeing to that.

I think it is insensitive, yes. I'd mute her temporarily.

I think she’s unreasonable to invite you without thinking it through first, did she give you much notice that you weren’t coming? Apart from that, unless you’re around 10yo then I think you’re being a bit pathetic around the photos, sorry. Do you actually feel jealous looking at her family holiday snaps without you? Can’t you arrange a nice holiday with someone else?

YANBU. Just ignore every single photo.

Her family did agree (why have you made the assumption they didn’t?) and I also checked multiple times that she and them would be ok with it afterwards too.

This also isn’t 1901 and I can use Google to see what a place looks like, I don’t need to sent to me.

Should have specified this isn’t social media. This is her directly sending to me.

It’s not about jealousy. It’s having photos sent directly to me on WhatsApp when you think .. oh I’d actually be there seeing it for myself.

So yeah jealousy

if you want to see it yourself go. You don’t need her to take you or her permission

Shocking. Block her and never speak to her again.

very gently - YABU. Sorry. It’s pictures - she’s a friend, you were meant to go together - she’s just sending pictures of the place. Clearly youre not as understanding as you said you were. If it annoys you that much - maybe tell her to stop.